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early this year my wife almost left me for an old crush from her teens. We got it worked out, and made great progress in repairing the damage. In all honesty I had been a total ass for a couple years and I can see what drove her away enough that she allowed someone else into her head. I made the changes necessary and we were doing great. Then mid summer I had to go out of town for work and I was talking to her on the phone and hear a male voice say "Hello" like he was answering his phone. I could tell by the tone in her voice as she said it was the TV that she knew she was caught. Come to find out she had started seeing him again about 2 weeks prior to me going out of town this trip, when I was out on a previous trip. I was beyond furious, came close to cancelling my week long trip and just coming home to deal with it. instead I stayed and she kept denying it was anything but the TV BUT saying we did need to talk when I got back. I finished on Friday afternoon late, and drove 14 hours straight thru the night to be home Saturday morning. We went thru hell all that month as she was torn on what to do. She got her meds straight and realized how big a dumb ass she had been, and we have been good since then. The ONLY reason I tried to work it out this last time is I already knew her chemical imbalance from medical problems had gotten worse and when it does she loses impulse control and rational thought. Combine that with the loss of 2 grandparents and her mom in the last couple years and she was totally nuts. I did not want to split and put our kids thru that unless we both knew she was not coming back. Now that her levels are right she is "herself". She has also started counseling and admits that THIS time around was 100% her fault and it makes her feel even worse because I had become the perfect husband.
Would I act the same if it happened again, hell no. If I had not had that week of being out of town to process it(even though she denied seeing anyone at that point) then I would have probably kicked her to the curb and been done this last time. Medical reasons only buy so many passes, and she is fresh out. Her brother and dad both told me they would kick her out if it happened to them, but since I do love her I could not give up without at least one last fight. Had she packed her bags and left, then I would like to think I would have not taken her back. But in all reality, I probably would have.
Of course, it's much more common for a woman to stay with a man if he cheated on her. But you rarely hear about men staying with women who cheat. I wonder if it's the emotional affair that goes along with the sex...whereas when men cheat, many of them will say "it's just sex," meaning there was no emotional attachment...I've heard that men will also ask "Was his thing bigger than mine?"
Anyways, men, I wanna hear what you have to say....
Hell to the NO!
I wouldn't be able to look at her in the face or ever trust her again.
If I can't look at her any longer I definitely can't stay with her.
Just an observation...from the vast majority of replies on this thread it seems that a cheating woman will be tossed out to the garbage, regardless of any excuses. I for one, have zero sympathy or empathy for a cheating wife for any reason, period. If she is unhappy in marriage, get a divorce first then have sex with all the men she wants afterwards. Otherwise being kicked out is the best she should expect. Been there and got the T-shirt.....
For me relationships are also a trust thing. If my girl could lie to me, go behind my back and sleep with someone else than that trust is broken forever. If she did it once than she is capable of it in the future.
Nope and any guy who does is a simp with low self esteem.
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