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I'm assuming that you're talking about both genders here because you just gave two examples that the woman lies and it should be forgiven. And if the man tells a lie that is similar to your example, a woman should look past that, too.
Yes, we lie because most of us are insecure in some facet in our lives. I may be a great person but I am overweight. Am i going to try to look slim, yes! My friend, who is a male, may not have a job. Is he going to lie, yes! You sum it up quite nicely when you say people do lie in real life and also on dating websites, but the question is how big is this lie(s)?! If that girl from your example LOOK NOTHING like the girl from the picture, then it would be a problem-but i would give her a chance. Hell, I may flat out even ask her, "What's your deal with the pictures?"
Is it ok for a man to lie about his height? Is she a B for walking out on him like a man may do to an overweight woman?
Can a man lie about his sexual past with no issue?
I just watched a TV show on Nat Geo called "Brain Games" a few days ago and it was about lying. You'd be surprised how much other people lie to you during the day. People start lying at 6 months of age... not by language, but babies are known to fake being hungry to be held. And our brains can even lie to ourselves it seems--and we really believe it.
I just watched a TV show on Nat Geo called "Brain Games" a few days ago and it was about lying. You'd be surprised how much other people lie to you during the day. People start lying at 6 months of age... not by language, but babies are known to fake being hungry to be held. And our brains can even lie to ourselves it seems--and we really believe it.
I'm with the crowd that thinks lying, and even small lies are bad. I rarely lie, and make it a point to not too, and do not live in a manner that would require it.
Some lies you may be able to understand (someone says they are 39 when they are 40), but I would start looking at them different. I never lied about my age on old, if they didn't want someone 42, or had filters that omitted me, I was fine with that.
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I'm with the crowd that thinks lying, and even small lies are bad. I rarely lie, and make it a point to not too, and do not live in a manner that would require it.
The issue isn't whether lies are good or bad. The issue is what level of dishonesty you can overlook. You said you rarely lie. In other words, you're not 100% honest. Well if you're not honest 100% of the time, then is it realistic to expect others to be? No. I'm not excusing honesty. But people tell little white lies all the time, often to spare people's feelings. And as someone pointed out earlier, it isn't the dishonesty itself that bothers people. It's that the truth isn't pleasant. If the truth ended up being better than the lie, something tells me people wouldn't be so upset over having been lied to.
The issue isn't whether lies are good or bad. The issue is what level of dishonesty you can overlook. You said you rarely lie. In other words, you're not 100% honest. Well if you're not honest 100% of the time, then is it realistic to expect others to be? No. I'm not excusing honesty. But people tell little white lies all the time, often to spare people's feelings. And as someone pointed out earlier, it isn't the dishonesty itself that bothers people. It's that the truth isn't pleasant. If the truth ended up being better than the lie, something tells me people wouldn't be so upset over having been lied to.
Well, first I think white lies are fine, those being something you say to someone to benefit them, not you, and that does not harm them in the long run.
After that, I think it's pretty much black and white. I'm not going to lie to my husband about what I do, what I spend, who I hang with, etc. In my marriage I have pretty strong rules about not lying. I have to be someone my partner can count on.
I've been lied to about a surprise party so that was ok. Some people lie, because they lie to themselves to overlook a truth they don't like.
So no, I don't expect others to be 100% honest, but in the long run I will weed out those who lie about important things and/or those who consider lying a lot okay. It's like art, when it's not okay, I know it when I see (hear) it. Sounds ambiguous, but my husband understands it, so that's what matters most. I have a cousin who lied during a business deal, she was also a good friend, I think she doesn't even saw it as lying, but it was. I'm still deciding if I want to maintain a friendship.
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