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High risk of a financial crippling divorce
Sort of like signing up for student loans only more risky
Bek the loan can be called whenever the bank gets mad
Last edited by Huckleberry3911948; 07-05-2015 at 08:29 AM..
Some people try really hard to convince themselves of that.
Here are some facts: Divorce is no harder on men than women. Divorce laws are not gender specific. Both genders can be vindictive during a divorce.
I cant totally understand being terrified of divorce, it aint pretty.
Jaycich you might want to read up a little on divorce (repeatable sources). Actually modern divorce is much easier on men than in the past because most women work so the are contributing financially to the things your afraid of losing, alimony is almost obsolete and child custody is for the majority of states split thus CS is greatly reduced.
In generations before women rarely had the ability to support themselves and children so they had to be fully supported for a long long time.
Now I don't care that you are opposed to marriage and want to remain single (so do I) but please use a legitimate reason or just admit there is no reason.
There has never been a bigger lie than this post. The family court criminal jumta is totally biased against men. I've seen it first hand. It's disgusting how bad it is.
My view is that men and women simply aren't as attracted to each other anymore. Fewer guys meet the criteria that women want, and vice-versa. For example, there are fewer men of high status because women are dominating the career world.
Divorce rates? hmmm im shocked no one mentioned who files for divorce stats? A real eye opening experience.
Why? Filing has nothing to do with who actually wants the divorce. I bet if you looked at stats for who makes most of the doctor's appointments it would be similar.
Men who choose to be single probably don't want to be told what to do. Marriage is nothing but a series of decisions and it seems to me that women are being more assertive and want their way more. I don't see many men in long marriages who's wives don't control them. ( my observations) you don't see many men in assisted living homes because they die early from being ridden like a rented mule.
False.
Any relationship (be it spouse or friends) involves give and take.
Same goes for women. Times have changed FOR BOTH GENDERS on the marriage front, love.
Agreed. More and more women refuse to go to work for eight hours (or more) and then do all the unpaid work and tasks afterwards, while their spouses would come home, toss their feet on the table and watch TV (or spend the time on facebook). This is especially true if their husband isn't earning significantly more on a long-term basis (like 70%+ of household's income). They realize that this is a raw deal for them and they generally avoid to even cohabit in such setting.
People should know that it's getting very uncommon to drop out of workforce in America, even after pregnancy. The norm of not dropping out of workforce after getting married took a slow turn since 1920 until 1960. The next route was not dropping out of workforce after having a child and it took a slow turn since 1950s until 1990. It is very common and expected of an average woman in America to stay in the workforce during pregnancy and return to workforce after a few months.
Society increasingly thinks of them as lazy or incompetent if they do so and they also feel the pressure to get back into workforce since most folks expect to live a family life standard which cannot be met with an average salary by one person. Many men simply expect a woman to take the role of their mother - to wash their socks, cook their lunch, clean the house, they even expect her to fix stuff around the house, mow the lawn and clean the pipes like their "traditional father" did, etc. This is a role that women refuse to play and they expect equal participation, a partnership, not an exploitative relationship.
One of the most common ways that people behave in America is to use stereotype-excuses only when it should benefit them, while they're very annoyed to play the outdated role themselves, or they aren't even capable of meeting such role at all. The best "penicillin" for this kind of behavior is to send them a clear message through your actions, words are often counter-productive and should not be said at all, actions will channel the message in a perfect way.... a message that they should cut out with the "traditional stuff" since they don't fulfill the "traditional expectations" themselves, plus that you don't want to play that role either since you don't see yourself in it.
Plenty of women don't want to "play the house" with their spouse for these reasons and they stay single - they don't cohabit, they don't get married, they simply stay single to avoid these issues some a get-go.
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