How long did your divorce take? (date, husband, Valentines, separated)

[christina0001]

I was recently told that a divorce in Missouri can take as little as 45-60 days if it is uncontested and uncomplicated. I was really shocked, I thought it took months and months for a divorce to happen, regardless of circumstances.

[bluegrassgirl]

In KY, if you have children, it requires at least 60 days. That is if both parties agree on everything - from the house to the kids which is a very rare scenario. We were separated for a couple of months before we filed. Then the divorce took 13 months. Much of this time was due to lawyers and court schedules. It really was a crazy amount of time to basically have your life and emotions in a holding pattern.

[Racelady88]

I had an uncontested divorce with no property to settle and no kids. We went to the courthouse & filed the form. It was less than 30 days before the hearing, and it was a done deal. This was in FL.

It is all of the arguing and lawyer advice that makes them drag out forever.

[ontheroad]

I don't know what the law was in the state I received my divorce (NY) but it took 7 years exactly to the day from the time I left my spouse to the day I received my decree.

But then it was contested.

[Pikantari]

ugh...............................................

The law in Virginia.

You can file for Divorce six months after the date of separation with out children, one year with.

I agree, that all of the lawyer crap, and property issues, they probably stretch things out.

My lawyer is still advising me to do a separation agreement so when divorce time comes, things will basically be finalized, and there will not be a big deal to make of everything.

Now, I wonder. I am paying off my first seperation agreement, which was not agreed upon by him, and which I had withdrawn, so he could no longer agree to. Did not want it open out there with my sig, as it has things in it that I now do not agree upon....

So, what I am wondering is this... will my lawyer draft a new one in place of the one I have, or will he charge me for another?

He advised me that truly, I do not need him for the divorce, but good to have a lawyer etc, but the sep agreement should really be in place, so that whne the time comes, both parties will have agreed to the terms, and it will just be turned into the divorce...

Does that make sense? i just got back from Wal Mart... I am frazzled

[DareToDream]

Robyn - I don't know about your state, but in the state (NY) where I obtained my divorce, we had a separation agreement in place and that took care of all the property division/child support/visitation/etc. When it came time for the "formal divorce" it was basically the separation agreement with the judge saying "divorce granted" with a date.

[bluegrassgirl]

Well, my divorce was over 16 years ago, so I'm sure much has changed in that time. We didn't have any kind of separation agreement. We had temporary motions my lawyer filed regarding maintenance and child support. Then, those got finalized when the divorce was finally final along with all the other issues.

When folks can't or won't agree and lawyers along with a long battle get involved, you're talking about huge amounts of money and lots of painful emotions. My husband and I sat down and agreed upon everything when he decided he wanted a divorce. We went and talked with a lawyer and were just going to wait out the time requirement. Then right before it could have been final, he decided he didn't like the agreement. So, we had to each get separate lawyers and go through a long battle that I won't go into here. Bottomline, it cost us each thousands of dollars for me to have everything that was on our little piece of paper done around the kitchen table.

[pirate girl]

My uncontested divorce in Florida took about 45 days- ironically, I filed the week between Christmas and New Years and the final divorce hearing was on Valentines Day......

[songinthewind7]

My divorce was in Virginia back in 1985.
At that time, we had to be separated for a year before filing for divorce, kids or no kids. During that time, we went to court a couple of times.
I moved to Missouri to be with my folks and start over so I didn't have to be present on divorce day.
I knew of people also who got divorced in Missouri and it was done within a couple of months as long as they both agreed on divorce terms.

[Pikantari]

Originally Posted by DareToDream

Robyn - I don't know about your state, but in the state (NY) where I obtained my divorce, we had a separation agreement in place and that took care of all the property division/child support/visitation/etc. When it came time for the "formal divorce" it was basically the separation agreement with the judge saying "divorce granted" with a date.

I think that is how it goes here as well. HOWEVER... he has threatened me with a contested if I ask for spousal.

I am going to call my lawyer next week about an agreement,, and if he has to charge me another 750.. I don't know.

He was going to alter it before, not alter, but change things to ibs liking, but now it is withdrawan, so I would bet that he will charge me for another one.

If so, i am going to see about ib paying for it, that way, when we divorce, it can just be done with.

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