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Why is this still ongoing? The OP clearly said she came here to get responses to show her fiance that he's over reacting. She's looking for validation and after 175 comments, if there aren't any that actually agree with her, I highly doubt there will be any at all.
You should've read more of this thread. She admitted a while back that her act of seeking validation was wrong. Now she's trying to mend things with her boyfriend with the understanding that she did make a mistake.
The thread is still relevant because people are still giving her advice.
Kevin finally called me, he wasn't angry anymore, but I think he's pretty much done with me.
I'm sure some of you who think I'm a horrible person are happy about that
The wedding is off and he wants his ring back -- so those of you who think I deserve it
go ahead and jump into my nightmare, the water is warm
He told me he still loves me, but that I've changed since he's been gone
and he said he feels like I haven't been completely honest with him about me and Derek
he's on his way over here now for the ring
I just want to crawl up in a corner and die right now,
got to clean up a little before he gets here and hit the shower, will update later
I'm pretty sure I know what happened between them.
Derek banged his then gf (now ex obviously.) That's why they had a falling out. Then when Kevin saw what was going down it brought back those memories and now that's why he's not talking to you and thinks something went on while he was gone.
If this is the case, it's going to be hard for you to dig out of it no matter what you say. That's probably why Derek is acting so thirsty now, because it happened once before and he thinks it can happen again.
Kevin finally called me, he wasn't angry anymore, but I think he's pretty much done with me.
I'm sure some of you who think I'm a horrible person are happy about that
The wedding is off and he wants his ring back -- so those of you who think I deserve it
go ahead and jump into my nightmare, the water is warm
He told me he still loves me, but that I've changed since he's been gone
and he said he feels like I haven't been completely honest with him about me and Derek
he's on his way over here now for the ring
I just want to crawl up in a corner and die right now,
got to clean up a little before he gets here and hit the shower, will update later
I truly am sorry this has caused the break up and I know how heartbreaking and devastating this can be.
Only time will tell if you two get back together again but honestly I doubt it.
Unfortunately this is one of life's harder most heart wrenching lessons to learn and I hope you learned it well.
I do sincerely wish you the best in your future and if you do get together with "Kevin" again, please remember the lesson you have hopefully learned, okay?
When I started dancing with his friend Derek, we were acting silly, like we always do, but because of the alcohol, we may have been a little too flirty, we did end up dancing a little close and maybe a little too naughty. But it was all just innocent fun
I admit now that it was probably a mistake,
Isn't he over-reacting?
Sounds like you just goofed up. He is not overreacting. Id dump you if it were me. Sounds like he's probably ready to do that to you anyway. You'd probably call Derek to ask him whats wrong with your BF, then end up hooking up with Derek, which means your bf would be right in dumping you.
I'm sorry to hear about the break up and calling off the wedding.
It is probably for the best. Him being in the military and you all being 25 or over (I think that's how old you all are) some people just aren't tolerant of those mistakes. If you two did stay together he probably wouldn't have married you anyway after this. His trust has been broken, especially if this happened before with an ex.
You will recover, and just make sure you take this lesson and put it to good use in your next relationship. These things must be learned. This is one of life's hardest lessons, but you gotta learn it some how. I hope this put things in perspective for you and you use better judgement next time.
Of course they do.... Alcohol was just a cover up of true sexual tension. No way you get naughty with people cheering you on in front of your fiance if there's no sex involved. I wouldn't be surprised if Derek hit it that night...
This is why you don't flirt with others while in a relationship. There's no such thing as innocent flirting. Small things lead to bigger things. He was completely in the right to dump the OP. I would've done the same.
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