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I'm not sure that it sounds to me so much like "she changed," as it sounds like the OP set a big old precedent by supplying the Doctor's Wife House and the Doctor's Wife Car and the Doctor's Wife Lifestyle, which was a bad idea if that's not something he's even interested in, in the first place.
I'm not sure that it sounds to me so much like "she changed," as it sounds like the OP set a big old precedent by supplying the Doctor's Wife House and the Doctor's Wife Car and the Doctor's Wife Lifestyle, which was a bad idea if that's not something he's even interested in, in the first place.
Considering the opening post began with justifying his relationships existence before the problem was even addressed....
He was already on the defensive, he knows what's up.
Here's my budget plan, we stay out of each others pockets( let me rephrase, she stays out of mine.) we each get a salary, we each get paychecks from our jobs. Here's my plan, I buy what I want with MY money and SHE buys what SHE wants with HER money. If she wants to go to Italy cool, but she does it with her boutique paycheck. She can finance that BMW and that house with her money too. I'm about 95% serious because that's how irritated I am. I feel like one of those dads where the kid says he wants a $60 game and the dad tells him to pay for it by himself, that's how I feel.
I used to be stingy. Then I married a trophy bride who loved to shop. Now I love to spend money on her.
It's just that simple: stinginess therapy. I'm guessing that she has some wonderful traits - the reasons you fell in love with her and married - but now they are forgotten, clouded by your true colors.
You don't need couples therapy. You need stinginess addiction therapy.
Maybe you can find a self-help group that is free?
Here's my budget plan, we stay out of each others pockets( let me rephrase, she stays out of mine.) we each get a salary, we each get paychecks from our jobs. Here's my plan, I buy what I want with MY money and SHE buys what SHE wants with HER money. If she wants to go to Italy cool, but she does it with her boutique paycheck. She can finance that BMW and that house with her money too. I'm about 95% serious because that's how irritated I am. I feel like one of those dads where the kid says he wants a $60 game and the dad tells him to pay for it by himself, that's how I feel.
Really, setting up a "separate finances, separate bank accounts" budgeting scenario is something you establish from the beginning, not typically something you retroactively take up, in most normal setups.
Here's my budget plan, we stay out of each others pockets( let me rephrase, she stays out of mine.) we each get a salary, we each get paychecks from our jobs. Here's my plan, I buy what I want with MY money and SHE buys what SHE wants with HER money. If she wants to go to Italy cool, but she does it with her boutique paycheck. She can finance that BMW and that house with her money too. I'm about 95% serious because that's how irritated I am. I feel like one of those dads where the kid says he wants a $60 game and the dad tells him to pay for it by himself, that's how I feel.
If you feel like you're married to a child who needs to be disciplined, it's not much of a marriage.
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