Opinions and experiences with SHY men or women. (how to, kid, partner)
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As a kid, I was bullied to the extreme for my shyness, but I pulled myself out of that kind of way of being in middle school. I never after the fifth grade allowed anyone to intimidate or bully me to that degree again. People still tried, and I was still shy to a large degree, but, no one would ever get away with being a bully to me anymore as I wasn't having it. I don't dislike shy people, I just don't want to be with someone that allows others to walk all over them.
PS, I'm still a very quiet reserved person, but, I speak my mind.
Same here. I might be docile and quiet. But if someone tried to intimidate me or push me around, I'd let them have it and tell them off. I'm no pushover by any means.
Extroverted people can be extremely annoying and they also come off as needy to me...... of course these are generalizations and I'm usually against making too many sweeping comments.
In my experience is how I should frame this argument.
Some extroverts are very nice people. But some act like they're better than shy people. Those types of extroverts come off as condescending douchebags.
As a kid, I was bullied to the extreme for my shyness, but I pulled myself out of that kind of way of being in middle school. I never after the fifth grade allowed anyone to intimidate or bully me to that degree again. People still tried, and I was still shy to a large degree, but, no one would ever get away with being a bully to me anymore as I wasn't having it. I don't dislike shy people, I just don't want to be with someone that allows others to walk all over them.
PS, I'm still a very quiet reserved person, but, I speak my mind.
I have been bullied and the more they bullied me, the more I stood up for myself. I also speak my mind if I feel somebody else have been bullied.
I consider myself extremely shy. I've done okay-ish on dating a for several reasons: I can hold up my end of a conversation if someone else starts it, online dating makes things "clearer," and getting to know people while at school or some other activity makes things easier. I have asked men out a few times, but they've never been interested back, so I haven't done it in a while.
In my experience shy women have a tendency to wear me out. I used to be a really shy guy in my late teens, but really opened up and blossomed when I was 20-21. I wanted female attention, so I put myself out there and forced myself to be extroverted. Now, there's not much I can talk about with a shy person. It's not that being shy is a bad thing, but the conversation seems to be so slow and I'm creating most of the conversation. It's just not a situation that I really want to put myself in these days.
I am very introverted. I test 100% on those Myers Briggs tests. But I am also very outgoing and friendly. I talk to strangers all the time and try to make people feel welcome if they look nervous. I am also very sociable, but usually with small groups of people. I just need some time to myself and away from others to unwind and relax is all. I also keep a lot of stuff "locked up" in my head (which is probably why all my friends see me as their personal psychologist). They can tell me everything and know I will never tell another soul.
You can very easily be introverted and not shy. I am proof of that.
That said, I used to be shy. I think it had a huge effect on my dating life in my early 20s. Men didn't notice me at all... ever. Didn't have a date from the time I was 19-25. I get a lot more interest from men now and all that's really changed about me is I am older (and look older) and I am more outgoing.
Not as bad now that I'm older, but when I was younger I was really really shy. Matter of fact, I hardly ever approached women, they seemed like they approached me more. Of course, I was devilishly handsome and while my looks have faded, I've got some mad comedy skills which would help if I was out in the market....
I hear it's not bragging if you can back it up.....
God, I'm envious of that. I've always been told I'm good looking, but I never believed it and was always shy and feared rejection. I'm only funny when I get to know someone, but not at first.
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Originally Posted by Raena77
I feel some shy people have better analyzing skills yet miss many chances.
Exactly. Story of my life.
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