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It's not a mature notion to believe that a relationship is going to be all fun all the time. All relationships go through some dead time from time to time, especially when you have external demands active kids. I remember one awful fall where we had two boys on two separate soccer teams, a daughter on a volleyball team, Cub Scouts, violin, school activities, church activities, you name it. That's in addition to cooking, cleaning, school assignments, and doing yard work. So our weekends consisted of heaving ourselves out of bed at 7 a.m. on Saturday and being too tired to think by 10 p.m. Sunday night. I remember naming the last day of soccer season "Liberation Day" because we finally actually had an entire day of freedom.
For our tenth anniversary, I bamboozled my mother to watch the kids for five days while we went to an all-inclusive south of Cancun. But we were so spent from our hectic lives that all we did was sit on the beach, quaff whatever the waiter brought over, and read books. There was one day when we literally spoke twenty words to one another. "Lunch?" "Sure." We were that exhausted.
That's when we said, "Whoa. Enough." While the kids still had their activities, we were determined to not be the super parents. So we began doing things to carve out time for ourselves. No matter what, we had one night a week where we went out to eat, have drinks, whatever. And, every night after dinner, MrsCPG and I made time to talk for 30 minutes without interruptions.
The last thing? Kill your television. Television destroys more marriages than adultery, because you're too busy paying attention to the idiot box to pay attention to one another. If you sit there and watch television night after night, your mind will turn to mush and you will become an exceptionally uninteresting person -- no matter what you watch.
I undertand that American relationships sucks. Look, what I did... i post a video IMO good in thread What Descripes Your Pathetic Love Life Right Now. And I get no response. No comment, no rep point no nothing. I undertand that the tune might not be everybodys cup of the tea. But don't view Finnish ppl like aliens from outer space. That my philosophy and my point, folks.
This is why I'm not much into relationships. The honeymoon doesn't last forever. It's all candy and romance at the wedding, beautiful words and congratulations. But then life goes to a reality that is much more limiting.
You have to put up with another persons shortcomings.
You now have financial risks as assets are mixed.
You are now subject to your spouse ethics and the consequences, and the governments involvement in it. You have just made yourself vulnerable.
You have much less freedom. You can't do things as you like. You can't take spontaneous trips on the go. You have to consider another persons schedule, work, and whatever other needs. Your spouse may have a difficult job situation, long commute, illness, not making much money, weird working hours, finish a graduate degree, or transfer to another location. Not everyone has that established career, shiny job, decent pay, and weekend getaways with you. You may suddenly feel that you are "dragged down". You could perhaps live a hassle free and care free lifestyle instead.
And what do you get? Irritating and judgmental in laws, judgmental and irritating relatives of your spouse, vanilla sex, lack of freedom, and constant compromises that hinder your professional development chances.
I undertand that American relationships sucks. Look, what I did... i post a video IMO good in thread What Descripes Your Pathetic Love Life Right Now. And I get no response. No comment, no rep point no nothing. I undertand that the tune might not be everybodys cup of the tea. But don't view Finnish ppl like aliens from outer space. That my philosophy and my point, folks.
I'm not sure how this turned into a thread about Finnish men, but I've met a few in my day. As a rule, they are melancholy and dull as dirt.
And the reason nobody repped your video is likely because it wasn't very good.
I'd want to do things on the weekends from time to time. Maybe go out once or twice during the week as well. Love-making is kind of the point of a romantic relationship, so I think that's a must. Otherwise, just get yourself a platonic roommate if you are only looking for company.
Busy lives are great for resumes and impressing friends, but truthfully, they are quite exhausting as well. Having just spent the last week traveling and running around with family, I know for certain that I can only take so much in short bursts.
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