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The title says it all, I'm that type of person, if something went wrong I ask myself: what did I do wrong, was it the right decision etc.. is kinda bothering because I find myself being in a relationship with a girl that I really like but I think about the bad experiences with previous girls that played with me. Any help ?
The title says it all, I'm that type of person, if something went wrong I ask myself: what did I do wrong, was it the right decision etc.. is kinda bothering because I find myself being in a relationship with a girl that I really like but I think about the bad experiences with previous girls that played with me. Any help ?
Quit comparing one female to the next female.
They are two different people and just because one did something bad/wrong does not mean all of the others will.
You are setting yourself up for many failed relationships just because you are not seeing the woman standing in front of you, you are seeing all of the other women in the past.
It also isn't fair to the woman standing in front of you because she has done nothing wrong and until she does you may be missing out on a really good woman who is not all of the others from the past.
Quit comparing one female to the next female.
They are two different people and just because one did something bad/wrong does not mean all of the others will.
You are setting yourself up for many failed relationships just because you are not seeing the woman standing in front of you, you are seeing all of the other women in the past.
It also isn't fair to the woman standing in front of you because she has done nothing wrong and until she does you may be missing out on a really good woman who is not all of the others from the past.
I'm not comparing them and I wouldn't get back with any of my exes, it's just random thoughts that come into my mind that I don't want.
I'm not comparing them and I wouldn't get back with any of my exes, it's just random thoughts that come into my mind that I don't want.
You wrote it yourself in your original post that you are absolutely comparing them, I highlighted your words for you.
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Originally Posted by Adrini
The title says it all, I'm that type of person, if something went wrong I ask myself: what did I do wrong, was it the right decision etc.. is kinda bothering because I find myself being in a relationship with a girl that I really like but I think about the bad experiences with previous girls that played with me. Any help ?
I think about the bad experiences, yes, but I don't compare the past with the present. I don't tell myself "she's better than her" but I'm like "damn that girl was bad, why did I even get involved with her ?I must have been an idiot."
the only way to forget the past, is tyo do just that. forget it and move forward like the animal world does. learn to live in the now, and a great teacher for that is a dog.
I think about the bad experiences, yes, but I don't compare the past with the present. I don't tell myself "she's better than her" but I'm like "damn that girl was bad, why did I even get involved with her ?I must have been an idiot."
Relax and enjoy it. You are in a better relationship and even if it doesn't work out you are in the game.
I had the same just after my divorce, the feelings bothered me a lot. I worked it out, I spend time on long walks, yoga, and try to learn where it went wrong and what can I do about it. Reading articles blogs from people who went through the same. That helped a lot. Thinking and worrying does not help. See what can you do about it. And also if something bad happen in the past does not mean it happen again.
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