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Originally Posted by Alicecooperfan
One of the biggest things preventing me from talking to women is I figure I'm better off waiting until the right time to talk to a girl. I still make a move at some point if I have the chance but I feel sometimes it can be weeks or even months before I've run into a girl a few times around campus or whatever. This has worked some but it seems I am usually single for a lot longer between relationships than most the people I know. Some of that could be standards but I wonder if it could be how I'm approaching this. I've wondered if I would be more successful if I just went around and hit on every woman I am attracted to, make a few bad first impressions, and figure its not going to work 90% of the time. I don't fear rejection, its not like I'm going to go cry about it because someone turned me down, all I am worried about is scaring away my options.
For the record I am not looking to hookup with a Snooki type that I find in a bar. Obviously the right way to do that is to be forward. I want to date a nice normal woman with interests other than partying.
EDIT: Also by talking I mean hitting on beyond small talk and getting her number. I thought I should clear that up.
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OP, I am in college too. This is how you "pick up" a girlfriend:
1. Pick a club that relates to your interests/beliefs/passions.
2. Pick a lady in the club (maybe she's attractive, maybe something she said/an interest she has resonated with you, etc.)
3. Talk to her after the club about said interest ---> try to make small talk.
4. If it goes well, repeat.
5. The second or third or fourth time, say "Hey, would you like to discuss this over [coffee/tea/hot or cold beverage of your choice]"
6. Proceed from there.
Talking to people doesn't mean "hitting on people". If you want to appear genuine/approachable, then act that way. Not that hitting on people is bad, but really, you want to find someone whose beliefs and values and interests are at least somewhat similar to yours. Doing that requires less hitting on and more conversing/scratching the surface.
Talk to everyone. You never know who you'll meet.
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