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1. No. I'm not asking for a novella but if you can't be bothered to send more than a two-letter introduction, I definitely cannot be bothered to respond, I don't care how decent your profile looks. At the very least, send a question so I can respond with more than "Hi, back."
2. The vast majority of the guys that I liked enough to introduce myself to did respond back. And the ones that didn't? I chocked it up to them either being intimidated by my assertiveness or simply being not interested. And I wasn't annoyed at all. It's hypocritical to ignore half the messages you've received for one reason or another then turn around and get butthurt when someone does the same thing to you.
1. Do you all respond to messages in online dating that just say "hi"
Nope. Usually delete.
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2. When I write to guys who seem interesting to me- I rarely get a response.
Assuming gender, proximity and age range are in order...
1) Does your overture say anything that indicates you READ and liked their profile?
2) Does your pictures show any cleavage?
If either of those get answered "yes"... move on. He's a tool.
Assuming gender, proximity and age range are in order...
1) Does your overture say anything that indicates you READ and liked their profile?
2) Does your pictures show any cleavage?
If either of those get answered "yes"... move on. He's a tool.
I do not respond to the hi messages or the text talk ones. I have gotten messages that clearly showed that he read my profile. From there we message for a few and usually talk to set up a meet. I say in my profile that I don't respond to flirts. Flirt messages mean that they didn't read my profile and probably sent out a mega flirt. Some men whom I have sent messages did respond, most did not.
Hmm I wonder if I should try online dating, I always assumed it would just be some situation where girls are getting 500 messages and online are going to date uber alpha male guys.
But if this is the competition we're talking about...
I get tons of messages and most of them are completely junk. I am pretty close on giving up online dating all together, but real life also doesn't present many opportunities to meet good guys. So I don't know how I feel about it, hah!
Hmm I wonder if I should try online dating, I always assumed it would just be some situation where girls are getting 500 messages and online are going to date uber alpha male guys.
But if this is the competition we're talking about...
That's pretty much what this thread is saying. Who do you think the "interesting" guys are? They're the best looking guys that every girl is messaging. That's why OP isn't getting any responses.
Hmm I wonder if I should try online dating, I always assumed it would just be some situation where girls are getting 500 messages and online are going to date uber alpha male guys.
But if this is the competition we're talking about...
The bar set by other guys is incredibly low, in online dating! Just be halfway polite and you stand out from the crowd.
1. I don't do online dating anymore, but I never responded to the "hi" messages. I did when I first started, but I quickly found out that most are just spammed. And there are so many of them, that you can never answer them all anyway.
If anyone put in time and it was clear he read my profile, I responded. Even if I wasn't interested. I figured that was polite. A trick I started to use to weed out spam, in my profile I asked them to answer a simple math question in their message to me (like put the answer to 7x3 in your message to me). Then a guy could say, "hi... 21!" and I knew he was real/read the profile. Although no one ever did that, they always wrote 2-3 sentences and put in the 21. I heard a better suggestion though since I quit... tell them to put your favorite color in the subject line (and mention your favorite color in your profile).
2. Most people (men or women) don't get a response. Maybe he's not interested in you/you aren't his type, maybe the profile is dead (there are a lot of dead profiles, especially on the sites that offer free weekends). Some people who are in relationships hang out online too for some reason and window shop but don't "buy" so to speak... he could be one of those as well. Sounds like you are getting some replies... and that's what matters (I am basing this on you saying they "rarely" respond, not that no one responds).
Good luck.
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