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Originally Posted by NilaJones
It's normal to be single for a long time like you have.
Girls know this, because we talk to each other. But sometimes guys don't know that what they are going through is normal -- because other guys lie about their success.
What kind of woman do you want to meet? And where does a woman like that hang out? And are you hanging out where she does?
The other really useful thing is counseling. Counseling is not for broken people. It is for healthy people who want to stay healthy. And it works wonders for your dating life.
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I completely agree. Well, I agree with it being normal to be single for a long time and the counseling part. I don't know if a woman can tell you've been single a long time. The OP is in the PRIME of his life. If you have good social skills, you shouldn't have a problem. My situation is that I've been divorced for 5 years. Its harder now because I'm in my mid-forties and still want a family. I've also changed a lot of who I am and have a great job. The issues for me are 1. I live in a bad city now, and 2. I'm too reserved, quiet, shy, introverted, or whatever word you want to use to just walk up to a woman and start talking. So it will practically take a miracle for me. But therapy post divorce helped, as well as focusing on weaknesses I could somewhat change. In a different city, I'd probably do a lot better in spite of myself. Anyway, I have no doubt all you need to do is focus on being a better you and try to get out and go to more target rich environments as NilaJones suggests. I had my best dating life in my late 20's - early 30's.