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I think you'll be all right delaying the sex for a little while. I'm 47 and I certainly hope I'll never have to enter the dating world ever again but if I did I don't think I'd be so quick to dismiss a woman for not having sex within 3 dates like the old days. Every man is probably different though, i imagine there's still several old horndogs that'll be "all hands" right off the bat, lol.
I think it'll be a challenge though as I know myself and my guy friends my age could take it or leave it when it comes to having a woman around. It's just not the important anymore. I'd say don't waste any potentially good opportunity if you do hit it off with someone. I think you'd be better off finding your dating prospects like the good old days of the 80's...face to face, in person.
... I was with my husband for 25 years. The last 5 of which were sexless...
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Originally Posted by Petunia 100
... Especially coming out of a sexless marriage (been there)...
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... Sexless marriages are not that uncommon. My first marriage (of 27 years) was sexless for the last 12-13 years (she simply wasn't interested and refused)...
Really? Are there many sexless marriages (putting aside the gay-but-married-for-appearances issue)?
When, in the dating process, someone chooses to have sex isn't an indicator of a low libido vs. high. The two don't correlate.
This is true.
Examples in my own life:
Girlfriend - College. Had sex after 6 months - I was *this* close to cutting my losses. After that we went at it like rabbits daily for a year.
Another Girlfriend - sex on second date. Was my only truly sexless relationship after that, it was like screwing a lawn chair, and she had about the same libido as a lawn chair, too. I can only guess she was trying the "lay him right now so you can have him forever" philosophy. We had sex maybe once every 4 weeks, she never tried anything new, admitted to no real desire for sex, something that other men I know who dated her were able to confirm.
Wife - married 15 years. Had sex on first "date" but wasn't totally a date. Never looked back. Sure, when the kids were little, we had dry spells, but it's been pretty good overall.
One thing I will say that made things difficult - if you only see your SO 2 or 3 times a week, and have sex whenever you see each other, it might "seem" as if they have a high drive, but you might find out once you see each other daily, that you now want it daily, but the 2-3 times/week you were having sex before was enough for the other person already. So, it's hard to judge true sexual compatibility, at least from a frequency perspective, until you are actually together more often than you want to have sex.
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