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Old 09-07-2014, 12:50 PM
 
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I met a guy at a my summer job a few weeks ago: we are both 22 and we get along well but i'm stuck in a confusing situation.
So we work in the same service in that firm and spend a lot of time together every day, quite logically. He is gentle, a genuine guy, he walks me every evening to my bus stop, sometimes he even makes a detour and takes it with me to keep talking. He knows the area better than me so he also shows me around and we have lunch together very often. He's had flirty gestures (putting his hand on my lower back, when he hugs me goodbye he lingers a bit and has soft eyes, once or twice he even softly kissed my cheek), he compliments me sometimes and he seems caring (the other day he went ou without telling t to buy me coffee as i was tired) etc. We get along well, talk a lot, including about relationships, he never mentionned a girlfriend... but on Friday night as we were leaving work and walking as usual, i asked him what he was gonna do that evening. At first he said he was gonna meet with some friends, but after walking a few more minutes, he confessed to me that he actually had an appointment with his gf to dump her cause he he didn't love her anymore and he needed to have the honesty to do it. I was shocked, he never mentionned her. They've been together 2 years apparently. But still, before meeting her he spent 2 hours with me. But what should I think of that? Why did he delibarately not mention her?
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Old 09-07-2014, 01:09 PM
 
Location: Overland Park, KS
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He has probably been looking for a reason to end his relationship.

That reason is now you.
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Old 09-07-2014, 02:29 PM
 
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Why did he delibarately not mention her?
Do you really not know the answer to this question or are you being coy?

You both have a healthy streak of dishonesty so perhaps you will be perfect together.
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Old 09-08-2014, 09:25 AM
 
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^^lol^^
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Old 09-08-2014, 09:46 AM
 
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I met a guy at a my summer job a few weeks ago: we are both 22 and we get along well but i'm stuck in a confusing situation.
So we work in the same service in that firm and spend a lot of time together every day, quite logically. He is gentle, a genuine guy, he walks me every evening to my bus stop, sometimes he even makes a detour and takes it with me to keep talking. He knows the area better than me so he also shows me around and we have lunch together very often. He's had flirty gestures (putting his hand on my lower back, when he hugs me goodbye he lingers a bit and has soft eyes, once or twice he even softly kissed my cheek), he compliments me sometimes and he seems caring (the other day he went ou without telling t to buy me coffee as i was tired) etc. We get along well, talk a lot, including about relationships, he never mentionned a girlfriend... but on Friday night as we were leaving work and walking as usual, i asked him what he was gonna do that evening. At first he said he was gonna meet with some friends, but after walking a few more minutes, he confessed to me that he actually had an appointment with his gf to dump her cause he he didn't love her anymore and he needed to have the honesty to do it. I was shocked, he never mentionned her. They've been together 2 years apparently. But still, before meeting her he spent 2 hours with me. But what should I think of that? Why did he delibarately not mention her?
it sounds to me like this guy is into you. as to why he didnt tell you about a current girlfriend, perhaps he didnt want you to friend zone him right away, or he is trying to juggle two girls at the same time.

just take your time with him, and make sure you can trust him before getting in too deep.
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Old 09-08-2014, 11:07 AM
 
Location: The Netherlands
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Once a player always a player. what I don't understand from you , just hang around with him and you did not ask him either if he has a girl friend? He might thought such an easy case to just get what he wants. Or might be he play with both of you at the same time. If he was a honest man he would tell you other wise he will play.
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Old 09-08-2014, 11:50 AM
 
Location: Maryland not Murlin
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He has probably been looking for a reason to end his relationship.

That reason is now you.
He could have also said it to see how she would react. If she didn't skip a beat, she was perhaps not interested. If she was surprised, maybe she was interested. I mean, he was conveniently on his way to break up with his "GF" that same evening, right. Who knows if he even has/had a GF to begin with.

C'mon, the guy walked her to her bus stop every evening as the OP claims, sometimes even riding the bus with her to "continue the conversation". His GF never once met him at work to go out for the evening? Never stopped by during the day for lunch? Never once called him "at the office" or when he was off work? Never once called while he was "continuing the conversation" to see where the heck he was at? I am sure he could have had his phone set to silent, but the dude is 22 so I doubt it. He never called her? She either works the graveyard shift, or does not exist.

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it sounds to me like this guy is into you. as to why he didnt tell you about a current girlfriend, perhaps he didnt want you to friend zone him right away, or he is trying to juggle two girls at the same time.

just take your time with him, and make sure you can trust him before getting in too deep.
This "friend zoning" nonsense needs to stop as it also does not exist.
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Old 09-08-2014, 01:24 PM
 
Location: NYC
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This guy sounds fun but dangerous. Go for it if it's your type of thing. Be sure to focus on his soft eyes and not his history.
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Old 09-08-2014, 01:44 PM
 
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this guy sounds fun but dangerous. Go for it if it's your type of thing. Be sure to focus on his soft eyes and not his history.
lmao!
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Old 09-09-2014, 02:01 AM
 
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When a guy is kissing you on the neck it's time to have a wtf are we doing conversation. Quite likely, he's interested in dating you but was in a relationship.

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Once a player always a player. what I don't understand from you , just hang around with him and you did not ask him either if he has a girl friend? He might thought such an easy case to just get what he wants. Or might be he play with both of you at the same time. If he was a honest man he would tell you other wise he will play.
If the guy were a player, he'd have slept with her already. Sorry, but your analysis is just not accurate.
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