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That's a no go for me. I have mental problems and don't click well with most people. Most roommate experiences I've had in the past have been horrifying. I've even been kicked out by roommates in the past. I strongly prefer living alone. And if I get a one bedroom I definitely won't be able to pay off student loans.
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Originally Posted by simon22
To those suggesting I live with roommates:
That's a no go for me. I have mental problems and don't click well with most people. Most roommate experiences I've had in the past have been horrifying. I've even been kicked out by roommates in the past. I strongly prefer living alone. And if I get a one bedroom I definitely won't be able to pay off student loans.
Ahhhhh, let the truth be known. There's nothing wrong with you going to live with your dad; I commend you on that but the mental problems will be an issue with a woman also; it also will have to be addressed BEFORE you get in a relationship.
I'll bet dad's thrilled. By the time you're done paying off your loans you'll be 32, a wee bit old to still be living at home. Better question might be, how will it effect dad's life.
I'll bet dad's thrilled. By the time you're done paying off your loans you'll be 32, a wee bit old to still be living at home. Better question might be, how will it effect dad's life.
I don't think he minds. He's pretty laid back and seems like he could use the company after my mom passed away.
But my question is, how will this impact my relationships? Should I just give up entirely?
In terms of relationships, there are too many factors to consider. Simply put; it will affect some more than others.
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Just give up? Absolutely not. In a way, your plan is brilliant because it will instantly weed out golddiggers and smart women will understand your reasoning. When you find the right woman it won't matter where you live, what you do, or how you look because she'll just love you for you. Best wishes.
...until that one Saturday morning when the GF is standing in the kitchen drinking coffee in her underwear and in walks dad...
I'm 28 and I've decided I want to live with my dad for 7 more years to pay off student loan debt. I'd rather just tough it out and be debt free when I'm 35. That seems like the better option instead of getting my own place just so I can impress a girl meanwhile being stuck in debt.
But my question is, how will this impact my relationships? Should I just give up entirely?
Honestly? I wouldn't go near a 30-year-old who still lives with a parent unless that parent was ill and needed someone to be there.
Take a second job if you have to, but emancipate yourself.
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Originally Posted by simon22
To those suggesting I live with roommates:
That's a no go for me. I have mental problems and don't click well with most people. Most roommate experiences I've had in the past have been horrifying. I've even been kicked out by roommates in the past. I strongly prefer living alone. And if I get a one bedroom I definitely won't be able to pay off student loans.
What makes you think you'd get along any better with a woman, then? Women are people. If roomates won't put up with you, don't expect a girlfriend to. Women are not somehow simpler or more tolerant of bad behavior just because we have two X chromosomes.
Sounds like you need to take care of your "mental problems," first and foremost.
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Save the money used for dating and put it into the loans as well to get out faster. Deal with the mental health issues while living there.
You're making an economic investment in yourself, make the psychological one as well, and work hard on your career and get out and be solo as fast as you can.
What makes you think you'd get along any better with a woman, then? Women are people. If roomates won't put up with you, don't expect a girlfriend to. Women are not somehow simpler or more tolerant of bad behavior just because we have two X chromosomes.
Because I have had lots of luck and gotten along with women for the past 10 years living on my home.
Do what's best for you, don't worry about people you don't even know yet (potential relationships). You'll still be young when you get the loans paid off. If you do happen to have a woman come along that you think is 'the one' while living with dad, you can reevaluate. But if she is 'the one', she'd understand anyway. In short, put yourself first, always.
Women admire a guy who has goals and is doing more than playing video games.
As I read it, he didn't graduate from college till 28, and expects to make so little money that it will take him 7 years to pay off his student loans (even factoring in the money he saves by living with his dad for free). Not sure how many women would find that admirable.
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