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On one of your posts, you say that you want someone who is good with kids but doesn't have kids of his own. You really are asking for the impossible, unless you are waiting for one of the tiny tiny number of guys working in <12 education or childcare.
I am guessing you missed the part where she said she could only date a guy that has kids if the kids are fully grown and no longer living with him.
Im refeering to posters that actually said that guys in their 30s are looking for "girls in their 20s" while maybe the 50 years old would like someone her age. They werent talking about grown kids.
In real life, 30 years old date 30 years old most of the time. Why do young women have to "settle" for old dudes? that isnt realistic and guys who expect that are either pervs or delusional
Im refeering to posters that actually said that guys in their 30s are looking for "girls in their 20s" while maybe the 50 years old would like someone her age. They werent talking about grown kids.
In real life, 30 years old date 30 years old most of the time. Why do young women have to "settle" for old dudes? that isnt realistic and guys who expect that are either pervs or delusional
Because they're 35 with 2 kids and they're looking for a guy who has no kids, is attractive, fit, white, well-paid, and willing to become a stepdad?
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I cant believe all those posts telling the OP to date men 45-50 years old, instead of men their own age.
Yeah, right, cause woman in their 30s rather date a 50 year old dude that a guy in their 30s.... come on. Sexism and double standards.
If this was a thread made by a guy whos 35, wanting to date his own age, people wouldnt be saying "get real. go date a woman in her 50s".
I guess you're overlooking all the other requirements the OP has and the fact that she already has two kids. Re-read the post that started this thread.
I cant believe all those posts telling the OP to date men 45-50 years old, instead of men their own age.
Yeah, right, cause woman in their 30s rather date a 50 year old dude that a guy in their 30s.... come on. Sexism and double standards.
If this was a thread made by a guy whos 35, wanting to date his own age, people wouldnt be saying "get real. go date a woman in her 50s".
Hey, I'm a feminist, and even I don't see it as double standards.
I'm not far off from the OP in age. Difference is, I have no kids. Don't want them, either. I'd imagine that would deter a lot of guys in my age group from getting serious with me, because for some reason they want to procreate. Therefore, I have to accept that my dating pool is going to be smaller than that of someone who can provide these men with the future they want, OR make concessions in what I look for in a man.
I don't have a problem dating a man with children though. The OP does because she doesn't want to be around kids. That's why people are suggesting older men with grown children. In most cases, it has nothing to do with a double standard and everything to do with the options available to her.
I fit the criteria of what you are looking for in a guy.
I am 35
I own my own business making 6 digits
6'1" 195, picture of me is in my profile
Zero drug use
Very light drinker
Does not have kids but wants kids
Now here is the problem. You are not what I am looking for in a woman. As a man I do not care about your degree of financial success, only that you are not a financial failure as no man wants to marry into debt. Physically attractive is a plus and is what I expect since I consider myself to be physically attractive. You say that you want a guy without kids yet you have kids yourself. I want kids, my kids, not your kids. You want a husband and a father figure for your kids and not to live with anyone elses kids but you expect him to live with your kids. You also want men without baggage yet you have your own baggage. You nixed a guy that also had two kids because his kids and your kids would be too many kids for your standards.
A guy like me that has his stuff together with no baggage is looking for a woman 5-15 years younger then himself who also has no baggage. You have baggage. That is why guys that fit your criteria lose interest in you.
Attached is a dating market value chart based on age. If someone has kids whether they are man or woman their market value is even lower then the chart indicates since it only considers age.
I like what you said , A man with different thinking.
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. They werent talking about grown kids.