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Originally Posted by GKelly
I've been seeing this guy (A) for a couple months. From the first meeting, I could tell we just clicked. Our personalities work really well together, lots of chemistry, sometimes fighting because of that, but for the most part, we're really comfortable with each other. Thing is, he's told me more than once that he does not want to be "official". He claims some family issue relationship BS that is affecting him now. He also wanted to break up after I moved away. I said that's fair, but we still talk on the phone and text on an almost daily basis. I think I was okay with the not being official thing because I don't find the sex very fun. Let's just say I've had better sex partners. He's lazy and selfish in bed and admits to it. He also hates PSA and isn't very affectionate. I probably consider him a very good friend more than a BF.
Well, all is fine until someone I used to see before him, (B), contacts me. We went out a few times and there was some misunderstanding that kept us from each other. I was pretty devastated about it because I thought/hoped it was going to work out. Our personalities clicking are not as apparent as it is with A, but in the bedroom... hehe...  He's probably the best sex partner I've had.
Well, they're both far away in my hometown while I have moved away to the other side of the country. I don't feel guilty about talking to B again because it was A who initiated the whole "I don't want to be official" thing even though we were exclusive and didn't see anybody else. Except it was not completely exclusive on purpose because I know he was still looking at/trying to talk to other girls online.
So what would you do in this case? Would you bother to bring up the other person to either one of these guys? I am going to say no, because neither have said they wanted to be in a relationship with me, and it's not cheating if it's not been stated that it's exclusive. Guys have done that to me all the time, so I'm just going to do whatever I want. |
I don't think there is a need to feel remorse.
You probably feel guilty, because you're feeling a double-standard about how you "should" conduct yourself in your personal affairs. That's your business. It's all game.
You didn't do anything wrong. These guys were clearly NSA. You being your own self, lived in the moment, didn't do anything to intentionally hurt, lie or deceive anyone.
All is fair. Single and free. No need to apologize, to explain, nothing. Zip.Zilch. Nada
Perhaps the only remorse I can think of that you may possibly feel is possibly with A, you feel cheated like you gave too much many times too more, and left empty handed.
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