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The one perosn I know who legitimately doesn't care either way for relationships anymore just has the type of lifestyle and personality that do not lend themsleves to what others have in their minds as what a relationship "should be"
He just doesn't care for a lot of what others consider "life" at this point.
There is nothing wrong with him, he is just born from a different mold than most of the rest.
He doesn't hate females, they just really don't hold much of a place in his life.
Some ladies have to remember, not EVERYONE who doesn't seek out you guys is broken in some way, they also don't hate you. Some guys just know their place in life and where their happiness lays...and sometimes it doesn't involve the opposite sex as cohabiting partners.
Last edited by rego00123; 09-18-2014 at 10:47 AM..
Saying you gave up on women is just overbearing even if you have a flair for the dramatic.
Just say you don't date because you don't want too.
Going on about how you "gave up on women" just gives hoity toity uppity types reason to go on self important rants and observations and share platitude points with each other.
I agree. Melodramatic attention starved BS at it's finest. I don't care that much about women and certainly have better things to do with my time than pursue them and put up with their nonsense, most of the time. But if a cute little slam piece comes along every once in awhile, I'm not going to say "sorry cute little slam peice, I gave up on women!"
The one perosn I know who legitimately doesn't care either way for relationships anymore just has the type of lifestyle and personality that do not lend themsleves to what others have in their minds as what a relationship "should be"
He just doesn't care for a lot of what others consider "life" at this point.
There is nothing wrong with him, he is just born from a different mold than most of the rest.
He doesn't hate females, they just really don't hold much of a place in his life.
Some ladies have to remember, not EVERYONE who doesn't seek out you guys is broken in some way, they also don't hate you. Some guys just know their place in life and where their happiness lays...and sometimes it doesn't involve the opposite sex as cohabiting partners.
Gotta agree. The men who don't seek or approach women aren't emotionally stunted or broken. They don't even hate women. They simply just don't care.
After reading many threads concerning relationships I am of the opinion that some people should not be discouraged from removing their genes from the pool and some others who should be encouraged to do exactly that!
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The one perosn I know who legitimately doesn't care either way for relationships anymore just has the type of lifestyle and personality that do not lend themsleves to what others have in their minds as what a relationship "should be"
He just doesn't care for a lot of what others consider "life" at this point.
There is nothing wrong with him, he is just born from a different mold than most of the rest.
He doesn't hate females, they just really don't hold much of a place in his life.
Some ladies have to remember, not EVERYONE who doesn't seek out you guys is broken in some way, they also don't hate you. Some guys just know their place in life and where their happiness lays...and sometimes it doesn't involve the opposite sex as cohabiting partners.
Sounds like me these days. In my late 20s, I realized that most, not all but most of the reason I was wanting a woman was simply because subconsciously, I still wanted to be like everybody else. IOW a high-school issue not completely resolved, just swept under the rug.
Eventually push came to shove (not in a relationship sense) and decided I'd rediscover my authentic self. My strategy was to mentally time travel back to when I remember being emotionally care free (or reasonably so). That happened to be a year to two before I had my first crush, and I re-embraced my original passions I gave up because they were "too nerdy". After about a 2 to 3 week adjustment period, I felt A LOT better about myself.
I never realized just how bored I was with almost literally 90% of the people in this world (no gender difference here):authentically different interests, different ideas of 'enjoyable small talk', and just a different core personality in general.
In the end, I get more enjoyment out of reading books, speculating about the nature of things, etc. The most exciting thing I ever did. 90% of people, well, I like some of them, and can even carry on a conversation at a bar (so long as its not the 'pick-up' bar type of place). But in the end I just have nothing in common with most people and because of that actually prefer to be alone (not lonely - BIG difference here).
So contrary to pop culture propaganda/memes, not all people need a romantic relationship to feel complete. They can feel complete doing what they love best. So contrary to the lyrics of the Barbara Streisand song, people who need people are NOT necessarily the luckiest people in the world. In fact, I'll go so far to claim that the Streisand lyrics more or less inspire codependency in others. In any case, it certainly does not apply to me either. Hence, I don't miss love and romance at all.
To close this long story in the short way, my "significant other" are my hobbies, readings about new things (space & astronomy, history, social sciences, and speculating about the nature of things). Nothing excites me more than this.
Not so much gave up.
But more or less realizing the ones I did want were either;
A)Hard to come by.
or B)Were already independent enough to not need someone else.
As I mentioned on another post here, I'm not a White Knight and I got tired of running across "damsels in distress".
I don't mind being second-in-command when it comes to relationships.
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