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Clutch, make one promise to everyone posting here- and more importantly, to yourself. Promise yourself that you will not say anything to her until after February 1. And in the meantime, think hard about your brother and your relationship with her. Think about your family and how you might feel if she's "amused" by your admission. It has the potential to be very embarassing.
Sit down and make a list of the plus and minus of telling her. It seems to me you are only trying to please yourself without regard for the other people involved. That's very selfish and a strong indicator of your immaturity (or lack thereof). You obviously don't have respect for an existing couple or even for your brother if you're willing to dump all of this on others just to satisfy your own feelings.
If I confess, I don't see her really just standing up and leaving, or laughing, or anything else. If she rejects me (which is the probability) she'll probably just lecture me on how it won't work out. That's the kind of person she is. As for my brother, I don't think he'll get mad. Maybe just annoyed.
Well theres only one way to find out If it turns out ugly you will know better next time.
Clutch, make one promise to everyone posting here- and more importantly, to yourself. Promise yourself that you will not say anything to her until after February 1. And in the meantime, think hard about your brother and your relationship with her. Think about your family and how you might feel if she's "amused" by your admission. It has the potential to be very embarassing.
Sit down and make a list of the plus and minus of telling her. It seems to me you are only trying to please yourself without regard for the other people involved. That's very selfish and a strong indicator of your immaturity (or lack thereof). You obviously don't have respect for an existing couple or even for your brother if you're willing to dump all of this on others just to satisfy your own feelings.
So I'm just supposed to lay in my bed every night and agonize? While he makes love to her in his apartment a few miles away?
I mean, I don't think you've every been through something like this.
I don't think you know what it is like. A week ago, I walked them to my brother's place. He got inside first. She kissed me goodnight, got in, and locked the door. I just stood there looking at the door for five minutes and then began to walk away crying.
A part of me doesn't want to ruin anything but then again a part of me wants to make my brother suffer (who could get any other girl anyway; handsomeness and a six-figure income goes a long way).
Well theres only one way to find out If it turns out ugly you will know better next time.
There's nothing so serious that can happen, which will ruin their relationship, or my relationship with my brother. Fortunately, he's rational. Forgive and forget.
He won't kill me.
okkkkkkkkkaaaaayyyyyyyy....he said she kisses him on the cheek!! please don't try to change the topic.....i kiss my boyfriends little sibling on the cheek....i am just showing that i love them as well.. its a sweet and innocent thing..don't jump to conclusions...when she kisses clutch, it doesn't mean anything. just that she is kissing a younger sibling of her boyfriend.....jjjeezzzz
So I'm just supposed to lay in my bed every night and agonize? While he makes love to her in his apartment a few miles away?
I mean, I don't think you've every been through something like this.
I don't think you know what it is like. A week ago, I walked them to my brother's place. He got inside first. She kissed me goodnight, got in, and locked the door. I just stood there looking at the door for five minutes and then began to walk away crying.
A part of me doesn't want to ruin anything but then again a part of me wants to make my brother suffer (who could get any other girl anyway; handsomeness and a six-figure income goes a long way).
God.
... but then this does worry me. In part you want to change the dynamic so that she/they can be more sensitive to your feelings. It's obviously not working for you to be around them when they are affectionate, etc. But, the part about your brother suffering ... you resent him because he has what you want, but how did you want this to play out?
So I'm just supposed to lay in my bed every night and agonize? While he makes love to her in his apartment a few miles away?
Yes you are. He had her first and she likely is not interested in you that way. And if she is, she's got issues.
If you have such a cavalier attitude about jumping into the middle of a relationship with a woman who is already involved with another man- especially when that man is your brother- you have big problems. Yes, this is your brother and you think he would handle it ok. But if this woman were dating some other man and you pulled a stunt like this you would be putting yourself at risk of being beat up or threatened.
You're 18- old enough to have these feelings and old enough to deal with them like a man rather than like a selfish child. Have some respect for your brother, and for his girlfriend that you claim to love. If you really loved her you would not even consider putting her in the position of having to hear you tell her you're in love with her. But you don't understand that because you're too immature to have respect for the sanctity of adult relationships.
Yes you are. He had her first and she likely is not interested in you that way. And if she is, she's got issues.
If you have such a cavalier attitude about jumping into the middle of a relationship with a woman who is already involved with another man- especially when that man is your brother- you have big problems. Yes, this is your brother and you think he would handle it ok. But if this woman were dating some other man and you pulled a stunt like this you would be putting yourself at risk of being beat up or threatened.
You're 18- old enough to have these feelings and old enough to deal with them like a man rather than like a selfish child. Have some respect for your brother, and for his girlfriend that you claim to love. If you really loved her you would not even consider putting her in the position of having to hear you tell her you're in love with her. But you don't understand that because you're too immature to have respect for the sanctity of adult relationships.
Okay. You're right.
So what should I do? Feelings don't change on command.
How do I DEAL with this problem? Seeing her will only put salt on the wound.
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If it turns out ugly you will know better next time.
please don't try to change the topic.....i kiss my boyfriends little sibling on the cheek....i am just showing that i love them as well..
