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Old 09-21-2014, 07:34 PM
 
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For most guy with the wife it's the same stuff, but always new stuff with the girlfriend lol
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Old 09-21-2014, 07:34 PM
 
Location: Virginia
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Let me know how "true" you think this is of men versus women...

Men say they like variety....it's been my experience (fairly limited) that they like to have sex pretty much the same every time, same foreplay, same positions, etc. I like a little variety - mix it up! I get bored if it's always done "by rote". To me, guys find out "what works" and that's the way it is every time.

So, do men want a variety of women but then the sex is the same with each of them, where women are more likely to settle down with one man and they'd like a variety of kinds of sex with that one guy?
I guess with some men when they find something that works and it is good they like to stick with it. Maybe a little encouraging or suggestions can help add a little spice.
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Old 09-21-2014, 07:39 PM
 
Location: Pa
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The guys were all different.
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Old 09-21-2014, 07:40 PM
 
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If this is your experience, you're picking the wrong guys
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Old 09-21-2014, 07:47 PM
 
Location: CA
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Common complaint of women. It seems the variety some men claim they want is in the partners themselves (different women), although so many men go for the same "type" of look over and over that this doesn't seem to hold a lot of truth either.
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Old 09-21-2014, 07:57 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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No, I've found the guys I've been with are all different.
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Old 09-21-2014, 08:23 PM
 
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Let me know how "true" you think this is of men versus women...

Men say they like variety....it's been my experience (fairly limited) that they like to have sex pretty much the same every time, same foreplay, same positions, etc. I like a little variety - mix it up! I get bored if it's always done "by rote". To me, guys find out "what works" and that's the way it is every time.

So, do men want a variety of women but then the sex is the same with each of them, where women are more likely to settle down with one man and they'd like a variety of kinds of sex with that one guy?
I must be a guy then .

I have learned to tell new partners that I do this -- get stuck in a rut, so to speak -- and that I will very much appreciate it if they bring new ideas!

It's funny, too, how the 'what works' is different with each partner.

I do think that men are more likely to value variety in partners than women. Some men want that and some do not, but I think fewer women care.
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Old 09-21-2014, 08:24 PM
 
Location: Central IL
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For most guy with the wife it's the same stuff, but always new stuff with the girlfriend lol
Yeah...that's kinda what I'm saying...after you've been in the relationship for awhile it gets a little "workman-like" so it gets the job done but is not very creative.
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Old 09-22-2014, 11:46 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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It's going to depend on each individual. I'm afraid I've become that way again too, but only because I was forced into it by my wife. In the beginning it was varied, but over time she'd inform me she didn't really like this or that, so we got in a rut. She's like that with everything. She has her way of doing things, and if you introduce variety to her day, you're "messing with my mojo!" My first wife was that way too, very organized, everything systematic. The wife between, my late wife, was highly, highly intelligent, artistic, and a little disorganized. We had lots of sex, usually at least every day, and it was always different. Sometimes we'd plan it months in advance -- something new we wanted to try. It gave us both something special to look forward to. Other times it was something spur of the moment -- saw a movie, read a book or an article, etc.
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Old 09-23-2014, 10:04 AM
 
Location: Bergen County, NJ
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Let me know how "true" you think this is of men versus women...

Men say they like variety....it's been my experience (fairly limited) that they like to have sex pretty much the same every time, same foreplay, same positions, etc. I like a little variety - mix it up! I get bored if it's always done "by rote". To me, guys find out "what works" and that's the way it is every time.

So, do men want a variety of women but then the sex is the same with each of them, where women are more likely to settle down with one man and they'd like a variety of kinds of sex with that one guy?
I think both sexes like a bit of variety. It's important to break the routine sometimes. Like everything else in a relationship though it takes work, and people aren't always willing to put in the work. Men or women.
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