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Impossible to find the ideal woman, even lowering standards (which by definition, makes her less than ideal). I live in the dating wasteland called Oklahoma. The fact I can't find a woman here to date, much less marry, if enough to make me want to leave this state despite the great job. I mean, if I have nobody to share my life with, whats the point of a great job? Its only 1/2 of the equation, and the other half sucks here. Even if I found her, would she date me? Probably not, now that I'm in my 40's. I have no shot.
Impossible to find the ideal woman, even lowering standards (which by definition, makes her less than ideal). I live in the dating wasteland called Oklahoma. The fact I can't find a woman here to date, much less marry, if enough to make me want to leave this state despite the great job. I mean, if I have nobody to share my life with, whats the point of a great job? Its only 1/2 of the equation, and the other half sucks here. Even if I found her, would she date me? Probably not, now that I'm in my 40's. I have no shot.
Sorry, mate! Again I can sympathize!! When I lived in OK, I also was in my mid to late 40's and the dating scene was God-awful there. The pool of available women in my age range of late 30's on up was rather shallow. My standards are not considerably high, the only things I really wanted were that she be a non-smoker, non-tatted up, non-obese. I was told by many women and men alike that I was eliminating about 98-99% of the available women in my age range, and that I had better loosen up on those 3 things Sorry, but I didn't think I was asking THAT much, but apparently in OK, I was.
I will also tell you Atlguy39, that one of the reasons you are not doing too well there, from what I see, is that you're not balding enough, not overweight enough, and just plain not ugly enough to attract too many women there. I'm not really being facetious, either. That's something I noticed there from Day 1, and never understood it. It's a very strange scene there.
So what you're saying is that you only want to date women you consider a "7" or above.
That's fine IF you are a "7" or above.
Water finds its own level and I view myself as being on the attractive end of the spectrum. My picture is in my profile and opinions are welcome, my ego can take it
Impossible to find the ideal woman, even lowering standards (which by definition, makes her less than ideal). I live in the dating wasteland called Oklahoma. The fact I can't find a woman here to date, much less marry, if enough to make me want to leave this state despite the great job. I mean, if I have nobody to share my life with, whats the point of a great job? Its only 1/2 of the equation, and the other half sucks here. Even if I found her, would she date me? Probably not, now that I'm in my 40's. I have no shot.
Why would the fact that you're in your 40s matter, Atlguy? I mean, I guess if you're trying to snag a 22-year-old it might, but not if you're looking at more age appropriate women of say, over 32 (I remember you've said you want to have kids, so naturally, you'll need to look at somewhat younger women).
If YOU make your age an issue, it will be an issue. And it shouldn't be a issue. You're an attractive guy, you look youthful and likely fit, so your age is just a number. Keep telling yourself that instead of all the negative stuff you seem to tell yourself.
But, yeah, by the sounds of it, you might have to get out of Oklahoma. Pronto.
Why would the fact that you're in your 40s matter, Atlguy? I mean, I guess if you're trying to snag a 22-year-old it might, but not if you're looking at more age appropriate women of say, over 32 (I remember you've said you want to have kids, so naturally, you'll need to look at somewhat younger women).
If YOU make your age an issue, it will be an issue. And it shouldn't be a issue. You're an attractive guy, you look youthful and likely fit, so your age is just a number. Keep telling yourself that instead of all the negative stuff you seem to tell yourself.
But, yeah, by the sounds of it, you might have to get out of Oklahoma. Pronto.
^^^^^^^ This. I didn't think I was that bad a catch either, but had poor luck there as well.
Why would the fact that you're in your 40s matter, Atlguy? I mean, I guess if you're trying to snag a 22-year-old it might, but not if you're looking at more age appropriate women of say, over 32 (I remember you've said you want to have kids, so naturally, you'll need to look at somewhat younger women).
If YOU make your age an issue, it will be an issue. And it shouldn't be a issue. You're an attractive guy, you look youthful and likely fit, so your age is just a number. Keep telling yourself that instead of all the negative stuff you seem to tell yourself.
But, yeah, by the sounds of it, you might have to get out of Oklahoma. Pronto.
Yeah, you're right. Good points. You nailed exactly why I want younger women. My issue is I'm relying 90% on internet dating, and women in their 30's tend to stop their search at 39. So I have to craft one hell of an email to them so they will maybe respond. I admit I haven't put a ton of effort into it. You're right, I do need to move, but its complicated. I have a great job and a job thats hard to find, especially with the salary and great co-workers I have. It took me a long time to find a job like this. I feel kind of stuck. At the very least, a job search will take a year or more. But I either need to start that (reluctant as I am) and/or try to get women in Dallas (a 3 hour drive) to notice me. Its tiring.
Its harder to find a good woman. She has to be attractive, real, down to earth, and pleasant for starters. Then she needs to be mostly drama-free and non-psychotic, ( you may have to be a little flexible on these conditions). Genuine caring and concern without being selfish are desirable qualities but can be elusive. Of course individual preferences and desires play a role in determining your success in acquiring a 'keeper', but for most it's a daunting task and one of the hardest challenges a man is faced with. I know I had to go through some lumps of coal before I found my diamond.
Even if she have a nasty attitude, love drama, and cuss like a sailor?
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Sorry, but I didn't think I was asking THAT much, but apparently in OK, I was. 
