I'm tired of being ignored by women (therapist, like, never)

[stinkerr]

Originally Posted by lovesthebass

Incorrect. I thought the same thing before, but realized that was a stupid way to look at it.

I had limited relationship experience (due to the personal choice of knowing I wasn't ready to enter a real relationship) and entered my first true long-term relationship at 30. We've been together for three years, married for one and have yet to have any problems.

What is relationship experience anyway? If you are 30 and out of many failed relationships, maybe that's more of a bad sign than someone who hasn't ever been in one. You think? I'd rather be with someone who has no experience than someone who has shown nothing but instability.

Just be a normal person. Don't bother yourself with "why women don't pay attention to me." Just go out, have fun and do what you do. Somebody will cross your path that shows interest and you go from there.

Your situation was different its not the same if it takes you a decade to get one relationship and at that point I wouldn't trust the womens interest.

[Davros]

Originally Posted by stinkerr

Man you are thirty years old if you do get a date what do you expect to get? What happens when she finds out you have no relationship experience at your age? Women are ignoring you because they want nothing to do with you I got over it I hope you do too.

If you're over it, why do you have waiting for the end of it all as your status. I think you and I would have a chance if we changed our attitudes. There have to be women who've not had relationship experience.

[Davros]

Originally Posted by jillabean

[Snip.] Seriously though, the best thing you can do is see a therapist. You seem to want help, but resist it at the same time. Make that step and meet with a professional. Not necessarily about women, but just to talk. It couldn't hurt and a professional can help you sort things out.

Thank you. I am seeing a psychiatrist for ocd and social anxiety meds and a psychologist for counseling.

[stinkerr]

Originally Posted by Davros

If you're over it, why do you have waiting for the end of it all as your status. I think you and I would have a chance if we changed our attitudes. There have to be women who've not had relationship experience.

Well I damn sure don't have this status over women but if I fell over dead now I wouldn't care it would be good riddance. Your speaking for your self on the attitude part because im calm as can be but a women at your age with no experience is by choice and she wouldn't waste a second on either of us.

[Davros]

Originally Posted by stinkerr

Well I damn sure don't have this status over women but if I fell over dead now I wouldn't care it would be good riddance. Your speaking for your self on the attitude part because im calm as can be but a women at your age with no experience is by chose ans she wouldn' t waste a second on either of us.

You don't know that about all women.

Wanting to die could be depression which is treatable. .

[stinkerr]

Originally Posted by Davros

You don't know that about all women.

Wanting to die could be depression which is treatable. .

I don't know that about all women but I go by my experiences which were gruesome and not caring if I die doesn't make me suicidal.

[Davros]

I didn't say you were suicidal but you do sound depressed. Depression is treatable. Do yourself a favor and get help in case you have that treatable illness that makes you feel miserable.

[GoCUBS1]

Originally Posted by Davros

It's been my whole life.

They just won't give me the time of day.

The evidence shows that the problem to fix is within you.... not with an entire gender.

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by Davros

It's been my whole life.

They just won't give me the time of day.

This idiot Sarah Hyland was dating. What's so great about him? He looks like an unshaven bum and his arms are like pencils. Plus he's a batterer.

So if he can get a date, why can't I?

The first step is to take an honest appraisal of yourself. Chose a possible reason(s) below:

1) You don't take care of yourself, either in your body or the clothes you put on your back or the way you groom yourself. Or some combination thereof. If you don't respect yourself, how can you expect others to do the same?

2) You don't have good people skills or empathy. Ask a close friend to level with you on this question, because no one is objective about himself.

3) You live your life in a rut, seeing the same people and doing the same things week after week, meaning that you aren't exposed to new people. Our experiences in life are what make us interesting.

4) You haven't learned the basics of good conversation. Being a good listener is as important as being a good speaker.

5) You aren't secure in yourself. Do you walk into a party like a dog with a haircut?

6) You are negative about the world in general. Running down a guy who dated Sarah Hyland is a pretty good clue.

7) You don't have purpose in life. It doesn't matter if you're a rising star at a Fortune 500 or a damned fine carpenter or playing the saxophone. Women like men who have a guiding passion about something that doesn't involve a sports team. Women love men who love their lives.

8) You see having a woman in your life as the siné qua non, the fulfillment of everything you need. This is otherwise known as desperation, a terrible burden to inflict on any woman. They can smell it a mile away. A woman should complement your already great life, not be its fulfillment.

9) You keep trying to date the same kind of toxic woman over and over again. That was my deal in my late teens and early twenties. I kept dating clones of the same neurotic, artsy-fartsy personality over and over again.

10) You keep trying to close the deal on Date #2, as if you're trying to capture an exotic species of butterfly with a net.

Hope that helps.

[Davros]

That's quite detailed. Thanks.