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She very well could be a calculating, experienced cuckoldtress, but I don't believe that. I think she really cares for the OP, but she can't help the feelings she has for Ray. It is natural for women to be attracted to and become weak for men like Ray. Ray has that something that the OP does not...
Yep....You are right, and Imagine how badly Ray's wife feels. The good part is that you know now, before you are married.
I'd walk away gracefully, you did nothing wrong.....It is simply that those two have unfinished business.
I cannot imagine how hurt you and his wife must have been, sitting there like bystanders while they disrespected each of you.
Don't give to someone that is not deserving...of yourself, your time, your money or your future. Find someone more deserving.
Wit a minute. I NEVER said anything about marriage. I have no intention of marrying her or anybody else. I WAS happy with the relationship, as it was. I decided after my divorce that I would never marry again, and I have seen nothing to make me change my mind.
I am glad you understand that, I don't buy the whole excuse of alcohol being responsible for the stupid things people.do. I think alcohol helps show people's true colors. I find it very hard to believe that she has no feelings for her ex when she danced and kissed him passionately and did it right in front of you and also referring to her ex as her true love or best love or something along those lines, I would have been furious and I would have felt like she made a fool out of me . Just be careful man, like I said I take my hat off to.you because you are a better man than I am. You have chosen not to punish her and that speaks vloumes, I would give her a nice taste of her own.medicine and have no.regrets about it. Just watch every choice you make from now on.
I intend on slowing the relationship down, and seeing other people. This does two things, it will give her an honorable out, and if she has re-acquired feelings for Ray or if she has never totally gotten over him (after 10 years I don't see how), she can do so . Plus I can date some other women whom I have passed on, because of being in an exclusive relationship. (Which Nancy suggested, btw)
Yep....You are right, and Imagine how badly Ray's wife feels. The good part is that you know now, before you are married.
I'd walk away gracefully, you did nothing wrong.....It is simply that those two have unfinished business.
I cannot imagine how hurt you and his wife must have been, sitting there like bystanders while they disrespected each of you.
Don't give to someone that is not deserving...of yourself, your time, your money or your future. Find someone more deserving.
I also agree, that Ray's wife is as much the injured party as I am, if not moreso. After all, I'm married to nobody, and she is.
Wit a minute. I NEVER said anything about marriage. I have no intention of marrying her or anybody else. I WAS happy with the relationship, as it was. I decided after my divorce that I would never marry again, and I have seen nothing to make me change my mind.
Awwe.....it becomes clearer .....the attraction for her ex. Same advice, move on....you are obviously wasting
time, yours and hers.
Tash gave me a HUGE hug and kiss, and it almost made me cry. She was the most beautiful bride I've ever seen. They are honeymooning now so I don't want any of this to get to them until after they get home and can relax.
Nothing about this should be discussed with them, even after they are home. It was not their issue, why sully their memories by discussing this with them ever.
After reading a few more posts up-thread.....I'm wondering why someone in a relatively new relationship would pay for a reception too....It has nothing to do with being nice...After only an 8 mth relationship with her Mom, you could have just given the couple a nice gift.
And, after seeing you writ that Nancy is so broken up, bla bla....I'm sort of wondering....... in a cynical way.....Perhaps there are a few reception fee balances yet to pay.
Seriously, this scenario had a few "deal breakers" in my opinion. I'd be civil, and mature during any discussion, held in a neutral location with Nancy......but I'd be done.
Whatever is discussed with the kids is up to their mother. Not my business. AS far as paying for the reception, money is made to be spent. I could have given them something else or paid something on their honeymoon, but I know some caterers and was able to get a very nice dinner for a very reasonable cost. It's what I do.
Wit a minute. I NEVER said anything about marriage. I have no intention of marrying her or anybody else. I WAS happy with the relationship, as it was. I decided after my divorce that I would never marry again, and I have seen nothing to make me change my mind.
Oh, I see. Perhaps you've made it very clear to Nancy that you are not the love of her life either. Hmmm. I'm starting to get a better understanding now.
You have no intention of ever becoming "part of the family". So why be all hurt and humiliated by her completely accurate statement? I'm not as sympathetic now that this has come to light.
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