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been thinking this for nearly a week now , been going out with someone for nine months and i really dont feel all that excited about meeting them lately , plus she has very different values to me when it comes to money
Yes, it likely is. The 9 month mark is usually when the honeymoon phase is ending and you're starting to see things more clearly, thinking about whether or not there really is potential for a long-term relationship. Your gut is telling you something, it's wise to listen.
Not enough information. There have been times in my past relationships when things felt kind of "meh," but if the love is there, that's when you assess. Are you in a rut of some kind? Like doing the same things every time you see each other, in bed or out? Have you been arguing lately? These are things you can work on and fix. Likewise, if the love is there, approaches to money can be reconciled.
But if you feel you're not in love, then yep, it's time to move on. You're sufficiently past the honeymoon stage to see reality but not into what I call the "old shoe" stage where you've been together for years and just need to shake things up a bit.
Yes, it likely is. The 9 month mark is usually when the honeymoon phase is ending and you're starting to see things more clearly, thinking about whether or not there really is potential for a long-term relationship. Your gut is telling you something, it's wise to listen.
Not enough information. There have been times in my past relationships when things felt kind of "meh," but if the love is there, that's when you assess. Are you in a rut of some kind? Like doing the same things every time you see each other, in bed or out? Have you been arguing lately? These are things you can work on and fix. Likewise, if the love is there, approaches to money can be reconciled.
But if you feel you're not in love, then yep, it's time to move on. You're sufficiently past the honeymoon stage to see reality but not into what I call the "old shoe" stage where you've been together for years and just need to shake things up a bit.
she is keen on moving in together , i thought i was too but the more i think of it , the less happy i am about it , i feel if we do live together , it would be much more difficult to part company
i might add we have not set a date for moving in together as she works too far away from my home for that to be practical
she is also someone who cannot save a bean , she also has baggage due to the fact her dad left when she was young , she told me the other night that she needs me in her life , im not that comfortable being so relied on
having said all that i was single for a very long time before meeting this girl and sometimes thing , maybe i cant do any better than this
Depends on other things. That's why I said there's not enough information. If there is one thing I've learned on this forum, it's that a lot of people get complacent and just expect the magic to continue to happen all by itself, and they give up the moment they have their first challenge. Well, when it comes to dates and sex, one has to be proactive in keeping things exciting. That's why I asked if it was just a rut or a true lack of sentiment.
Or maybe it's because the holidays are coming and their money differences are that he doesn't want to spend any on gifts.
Listen to your gut. Looks like you aren't interested anymore. She might be too clingy and too dependent on you.
Sure you can meet someone else, someone more independent...
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