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How creepy... ew "what do you like in the bedroom?" "I won't flirt with you I swear." "We're friends only" and your so-called friendship builds up to all this anger, cussing, and complete a$$holery?
Man, I'm getting goosebumps just thinking of the kind of mind games you're going through. How manipulative. Creepy.
If he truly truly liked you as a person, even if things don't quite sail smoothly, a little bit of open communication and respect is what a true friend who's sincere with their words does for me. Instead of slamming doors, and turning thing around on me? What a child. Psycho!!
He's wrong for flipping the script by making comments about trying not to hit on you after he confirmed that the outing was not going to be a date. You were wrong in ignoring his comments and hoping he'd get the hint. From what I can see, neither of of you were "effing open" about any of this. He deleted and blocked you. I suggest that you do the same wherever possible. Learn from this, and be direct with the next guy who tries it.
Last edited by Lilac110; 10-02-2014 at 10:11 AM..
Reason: ETA: OMG, it's true. I've become my mother. I sound just like her! Miss you, Mom.
My advice, count yourself lucky, this guy sounds like a real nut case.
I've been talking to a 25 year old through message and on the phone. I have told her, bluntly, that what she needs right now is good friends, and people that will listen who have been through what she is going through. I will not be her white knight, she needs to handle her own business, but if she needs a shoulder to cry on, or an ear to listen, I can help her with that.
I told her, bluntly, that I find her attractive, and if she wants to get out and have a date that I'd love to do just that. She could come and hang at my house when I don't have the kids, not all the time, not move in, but if she wants to get out of her small town for the weekend and do something, I'm happy to be her escort for the evening.
That is what this guy should have said to you. Instead, he let you believe that he was just your friend to try and show you "how great" he was, instead of letting you find that out on your own. I think you found out who he was, and be thankful that you did before engaging in further behavior that would draw out the psycho in him
Oh, gawd. Don't be that guy. Don't be the one who tells a woman who is going through a tough time that she can come to him and then drops hints at a weekend together when he knows damn well what would happen if she took him up on it. Come on, you know that is the weaselly "guy who wants to get laid pretending to be a friend so that if they end up in bed he can go back and say 'I told you, just friends'" thing, the "nice guy with ulterior motives that make him not truly a nice guy" schtick. You know better than that.
Sounds like the typical "Nice Guy" story anout a guy faking a friendship with a woman he's interested in but playing dumb, thinking by acting this way she's suddenly going to want a relationship with him.
When reality hits him and the woman can actually recognize his lines, then suddenly he's all bitter and must be saying ''But why, I'm so "nice", why doesn't she like me.
I wouldn't contact him further. If he wanted more than just a friendship, he could have been straight forward about it instead of faking a friendship.
In my 40 years, I have never met or knew a guy who wanted to be friends with a girl just for the sake of wanting a true friendship and nothing more.
There really isn't. I might have said maybe my distant male childhood friend (his mother is friends with my mother) who I talk to once in a long while but then again I can imagine if this situation were to happen:
What if alcohol was involved at a party and it was just the two of us alone. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions, which means that those desires and though were deep in your unconscious but all booze is doing is just acting out what you wouldn't have done in your sober self.
When his mother jokinly once told him ''Roy how about Laychick'' on a conversation regarding dating, he replied with an ''No, I only see her as a sister, it would be weird'' but yes he does think I'm cute.
Nope, I'm afraid you're right. There aren't that many men that will just want to talk to a woman for the sake of just being long-term platonic friends. The only guys to trust that they won't ever think about awoman in a sexual manner and give her advice when she needs help (normal sane men that is) are obviously the father, brother and then probably male cousins.
What you do is be grateful he blocked you and move on and in the future if he tries to contact you block him and ignore him.
There is no reason to voluntarily invite crazy into your life.
How creepy... ew "what do you like in the bedroom?" "I won't flirt with you I swear." "We're friends only" and your so-called friendship builds up to all this anger, cussing, and complete a$$holery?
Man, I'm getting goosebumps just thinking of the kind of mind games you're going through. How manipulative. Creepy.
If he truly truly liked you as a person, even if things don't quite sail smoothly, a little bit of open communication and respect is what a true friend who's sincere with their words does for me. Instead of slamming doors, and turning thing around on me? What a child. Psycho!!
This was my impression. Frankly he sounds disturbed and even predatory. I doubt this is the last you will hear from him.
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