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The problem is is that people don't think about what's best for the kids.. I get friggin hot thinking about it... I grew up in a really really dysfunctional home lots of problems men in and out of my moms life, severe lack of consistency and a whole other long long laundry list of things and it stems from people not doing what's best for the kids I see it over and and over and over in real life and on this forum, Yeah, I'll get judgy real quick about it... people do what's best for them and the kids don't always matter.
Do I know you personally no.. I don't and you may be fine it's the reason I edited my initial post, my rant is more directed at the bigger picture in our society with our hookup culture and the like.....
Kids get lost in the dumb ass parents foolishness in how they live their lives... all kinds of baby mama drama...
You understand what I'm talking about.
I don't have kids myself but I'm a major advocate of kids having a decent shot at a good life.
Studies show that young women without a good support system, preferable a spouse, that the kids don't do as well as others.
That's my only beef and of course people are gonna come on here and say no.. no the hookup culture is fine, tons of men revolving in and out of the kids life is just fine.......
You usually hear women complaining that the guy who got them pregnant disappears and does not want to take responsibility. Be happy that this guy actually wants to be there for the child he helped create.
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I gotta ask....... Were you on the pill or just having random sex without protection ?
Um...even if she was on the pill, if its a 'hookup', they were having random sex without protection. I guess they dont get random STDs in her neck of the woods.
You usually hear women complaining that the guy who got them pregnant disappears and does not want to take responsibility. Be happy that this guy actually wants to be there for the child he helped create.
Agreed. It shocks me how some people take things for granted. She may not want the guy, but least he treats her well, and is trying to help, rather than saying "It's not mine, f off." And even if they don't get together, him being in the baby's life consistently will be good. A good mother and father is something children should have-even if said mom and dad are involved with one another.
And heck, OP, you could try dating the guy a bit. You said you don't know him that well. But he seems to treat you well. Why not give him a chance? You may have good chemistry with him, and be crazy about him.
One of the downfalls of "hookup culture." A few min of nice sex, great. But then all this drama happens. Having babies with people you didn't want, or like, drama of a child and being a single parent, etc.
We only did it twice before I found out I was pregnant and I just don't know him that well.I'm actually more traditional and wanted a baby after I got married and found the right guy, Prince Charming and all that. Then this happened and it was a complete plot twist. I have always wanted a baby though and I have a steady job so I'm going through with the pregnancy.
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I have nothing against people having casual sex, but if you are more traditional and wanted a baby AFTER marriage then you really need to reconsider having sex with men you don't know that well.
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