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Old 10-07-2014, 05:02 PM
 
Location: Oviedo, FL
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Is this true? I heard this before.

That typically, the hardest part for guys is getting the first date and the hardest part of girls is getting past the few dates?

Because usually girls often have plenty of dating options and as a result can afford to be more choosy with who they go on a first date on as opposed to guys.

And usually the guys who end up getting the date disappear after getting in their pants after a few dates. Girls are less likely to do this because they are more likely to want an actual romantic relationship as opposed to a lot of guys that just want to hit it and quit it.

Of course these are all just generalizations. I am a guy saving myself until marriage and I want nothing but a classic romantic relationship.
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Old 10-07-2014, 05:27 PM
 
Location: Sango, TN
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Usually, what I've found, is that I am mystified by most women on the first few dates. Then some red flags start going up, and I will let them know that it was fun but I wasn't into a serious relationship with them. Now, if we have a ton in common, do things together that we both have fun doing, she doesn't tell me her car is broken down with no money to fix it, or that the reason she didn't contact me was because she was broke and couldn't afford minutes, then we can continue. When she says, "I think I feel a special connection with you" the first time we make love, then we are good also. I get that a lot because I'm empathic. But its not a prelude to a lasting relationship because you fall in love with my ability to feel your emotions and feelings.

And if you come off as desperate, not cool. I don't want you because you're desperate for a man. I want you because you are into who I am, and not what I can do for you.
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Old 10-07-2014, 05:37 PM
 
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Is this true? I heard this before.

That typically, the hardest part for guys is getting the first date and the hardest part of girls is getting past the few dates?

Because usually girls often have plenty of dating options and as a result can afford to be more choosy with who they go on a first date on as opposed to guys.

And usually the guys who end up getting the date disappear after getting in their pants after a few dates. Girls are less likely to do this because they are more likely to want an actual romantic relationship as opposed to a lot of guys that just want to hit it and quit it.

Of course these are all just generalizations. I am a guy saving myself until marriage and I want nothing but a classic romantic relationship.
Everyone's different so it's hard to generalize.

Overall, it's definitely easier for women to get dates and have casual sex than it is for men. I'm not sure that it's the norm for guys to leave after a few dates (and getting lucky), but that does happen.

My advice is to not over think things and continue dialogue/interaction/meeting with those who capture your interest. People generally reveal their true intent through behaviors/actions, so you should be able to pick up on that quickly.
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Old 10-07-2014, 05:54 PM
 
Location: Oviedo, FL
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Usually, what I've found, is that I am mystified by most women on the first few dates. Then some red flags start going up, and I will let them know that it was fun but I wasn't into a serious relationship with them. Now, if we have a ton in common, do things together that we both have fun doing, she doesn't tell me her car is broken down with no money to fix it, or that the reason she didn't contact me was because she was broke and couldn't afford minutes, then we can continue. When she says, "I think I feel a special connection with you" the first time we make love, then we are good also. I get that a lot because I'm empathic. But its not a prelude to a lasting relationship because you fall in love with my ability to feel your emotions and feelings.

And if you come off as desperate, not cool. I don't want you because you're desperate for a man. I want you because you are into who I am, and not what I can do for you.
Would you consider yourself to be a physically attractive man (by conventional standards)?
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Old 10-07-2014, 06:33 PM
 
Location: Sango, TN
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Would you consider yourself to be a physically attractive man (by conventional standards)?
Many women seem to think so.
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Old 10-29-2014, 09:51 PM
 
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Getting the first date might be harder for a guy because he does experiment rejection explicitly, a woman doesn't unless she's the one that asks out; however, for every man that is constantly being rejected, there's a woman that's never asked out, at least not by anyone who's worth it. Once both go on a date, I have no idea who's most likely to leave the boat.
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Old 10-29-2014, 09:58 PM
 
Location: Northeast, US
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Getting the first date is harder for the guy. All the girl has to do is just sit there and wait for the target to approach and get close. When he walks over she can tell if hes going to ask. Just depends what she wants to do, how she wants to play it. The advantage is all hers and hers alone to do with as she so pleases.
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Old 10-29-2014, 10:07 PM
 
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Everyone's different so it's hard to generalize..
This. Some women have a lot of trouble just getting a first date. Some dudes have trouble getting past the first few dates. Like some of the posters here, they don't get why the first couple of dates went well, but the woman isn't texting them back or initiating anything.

So, it's a mixed bag, OP. Everything depends on the people involved.
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Old 10-30-2014, 02:05 PM
 
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Its hard for men to get a date period, I don't believe anything a women says so who knows but I could care less.
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Old 10-30-2014, 09:20 PM
 
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It seems to me that women have it much easier in every aspect of dating, whereas it is more difficult for men in general (if you are not a GQ model).
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