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I've always found that comedy, even bad comedy, is an excellent first date. If they are bad, I can show off my sense of humor (which I've been told is pretty good) and make fun of the crap they are saying. If he is funny, then I just get to check her out and buy her drinks.
Its a first date, and this lady isn't like some of the others I've dated, she isn't desperate. She has her life together, but I can definitely tell by talking to her that "biological" clock is ticking.
I'd consider getting into another serious relationship after dating for a year, I'm not getting younger. She is into music festivals like I am, live music, and staying fit. I'm just going to be myself, and see where it goes. If there is an attraction there on her part, then there is attraction on mine already.
Now, Saturday I have another date with a 25 year old who is going through a rough period in her life. But I have made my intentions known to her, I am not serious about dating her, I'll be her friend, and while single, if she wants to go out and have a good time, I'm all about having a good time.
I'm a long way from settling down, but if the 36 year old teacher and I hit it off, after three months, I'll consider "going steady" as it were.
The fact that she's still talking to you means she likes you. So you found a girl who doesn't want to sleep with you on the first date? That's not a bad thing you know.
I met this girl online, and after 2 or 3 days of texting and talking on the phone, we set up a dinner date at my place. The plan was to eat, and then go for a walk.
Due to surprisingly bad weather (rain, thunderstorms, etc.) we ended up just continuing the date at my place, in my semi empty apartment (new apartment, haven't had living room furniture delivered yet, etc). Which forced us to 'hang' in my bedroom.
While sitting in the room chatting -- having a seemingly good conversation (her at my desk, me on my bed) I invited her to come sit with me on the bed, so that we could be close, and she rejected strongly and swiftly "i'm fine sitting here". It got awkward quick and she made up some excuse to leave.
Before she left, she hinted/suggested a future date (don't know if she was just being polite), and then texted me later, thanking me for a good time.
The next morning she started texting me again, and has made several attempts to initiate and keep conversation.
I'm an inexperienced dater, and just looking for some feedback on the situation.
How much should I read into her rejecting my advancement for physical contact? My intuition tells me to move on/she's not interested -- but I don't know whether to trust it or not.
You just met her then tried to be intimate? She doesn't know you what did you expect? Not to blame you but I'd lay off trying to get intimate. Allow you both to become close friends first. If you want to see her then continue but never be the one to make the first move. No matter how close you feel to her. She'll let you know when it's time
How much should I read into her rejecting my advancement for physical contact? My intuition tells me to move on/she's not interested -- but I don't know whether to trust it or not.
It was your first date... and you invited her to sit with you on your bed.
Yea, she's been contacting me all day, even though I haven't responded as much (mostly because I've been busy). She seems very open to another date.
Contact her already!
It sounds like she likes you and hopes to get to know you better. No one can blame her for her reaction when you asked her to join you on the bed. On a first date, any woman would have wanted to run out of there. She's just contacting you over and over to make sure that everything is still okay.
I met this girl online, and after 2 or 3 days of texting and talking on the phone, we set up a dinner date at my place. The plan was to eat, and then go for a walk.
Due to surprisingly bad weather (rain, thunderstorms, etc.) we ended up just continuing the date at my place, in my semi empty apartment (new apartment, haven't had living room furniture delivered yet, etc). Which forced us to 'hang' in my bedroom.
While sitting in the room chatting -- having a seemingly good conversation (her at my desk, me on my bed) I invited her to come sit with me on the bed, so that we could be close, and she rejected strongly and swiftly "i'm fine sitting here". It got awkward quick and she made up some excuse to leave.
Before she left, she hinted/suggested a future date (don't know if she was just being polite), and then texted me later, thanking me for a good time.
The next morning she started texting me again, and has made several attempts to initiate and keep conversation.
I'm an inexperienced dater, and just looking for some feedback on the situation.
How much should I read into her rejecting my advancement for physical contact? My intuition tells me to move on/she's not interested -- but I don't know whether to trust it or not.
LOL, for an inexperienced dater, you sure do know how to get a girl into bed... the first meet. That's funny. What do you expect, her sleeping with you at the very first meet so she can prove she's interested? Ugh, I hate men like you - 'inexperienced' dater.
I met this girl online, and after 2 or 3 days of texting and talking on the phone, we set up a dinner date at my place. The plan was to eat, and then go for a walk.
Due to surprisingly bad weather (rain, thunderstorms, etc.) we ended up just continuing the date at my place, in my semi empty apartment (new apartment, haven't had living room furniture delivered yet, etc). Which forced us to 'hang' in my bedroom.
While sitting in the room chatting -- having a seemingly good conversation (her at my desk, me on my bed) I invited her to come sit with me on the bed, so that we could be close, and she rejected strongly and swiftly "i'm fine sitting here". It got awkward quick and she made up some excuse to leave.
Before she left, she hinted/suggested a future date (don't know if she was just being polite), and then texted me later, thanking me for a good time.
The next morning she started texting me again, and has made several attempts to initiate and keep conversation.
I'm an inexperienced dater, and just looking for some feedback on the situation.
How much should I read into her rejecting my advancement for physical contact? My intuition tells me to move on/she's not interested -- but I don't know whether to trust it or not.
She probably felt offended that you would make a move on her so quickly so fast, especially after barely just knowing her.
She didn't technically reject you.
She just didn't like how you were inviting her over to sit on the bed. Probably thought you were being just like another "dude" and wanting to get laid only, then realized maybe she over-reacted.
Either way, why not ask her, "Did I do something to offend you? Everything okay?" You're also making a huge assumption about the fact a girl rejects your physical advances = her not liking you.
A girl may like a guy, and still want to take it slow in that department ya know?
I met this girl online, and after 2 or 3 days of texting and talking on the phone, we set up a dinner date at my place. The plan was to eat, and then go for a walk.
Due to surprisingly bad weather (rain, thunderstorms, etc.) we ended up just continuing the date at my place, in my semi empty apartment (new apartment, haven't had living room furniture delivered yet, etc). Which forced us to 'hang' in my bedroom.
While sitting in the room chatting -- having a seemingly good conversation (her at my desk, me on my bed) I invited her to come sit with me on the bed, so that we could be close, and she rejected strongly and swiftly "i'm fine sitting here". It got awkward quick and she made up some excuse to leave.
Before she left, she hinted/suggested a future date (don't know if she was just being polite), and then texted me later, thanking me for a good time.
The next morning she started texting me again, and has made several attempts to initiate and keep conversation.
I'm an inexperienced dater, and just looking for some feedback on the situation.
How much should I read into her rejecting my advancement for physical contact? My intuition tells me to move on/she's not interested -- but I don't know whether to trust it or not.
DO NOT APOLOGIZE for wanting to get close to her.
You made a strong move and she rejected. If she was that disappointed and freaked out she would not have contacted you again.
If you are interested in getting physical you need to be open and upfront about it. Don't assume anything.
Talk to her and find out what her comfort level is.
Do not apologize. You have no reason to.
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