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Old 12-30-2007, 07:44 PM
 
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Ok part venting part looking for what people think, both men and women.
Have been with together 6 years have 2 yr old. He wants sex almost everyday (gets it most days). Now occassionally, IM NOT IN THE MOOD, but god forbid I say no, then he sulks ALL day, choosing to be in a "ugly" mood, staring out the window, miserable look on his face. (this arguement comes up at least monthly)

Im quite sick of it actually. Hes just told me "im not doing this next year" I do evrything for this family and when i want love, i think i deserve it.

So let me ask this.... how many of you are made to feel guilty for not wanting sex? Now keep in mind he gets it AT LEAST 4 times a week if not more!!!!!

How would you handle your partner?
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Old 12-30-2007, 07:48 PM
 
Location: Land of 10000 Lakes + some
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Does this guy use sex for tension relief or some such thing?
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Old 12-30-2007, 07:53 PM
 
Location: Menver, CO
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Now keep in mind he gets it AT LEAST 4 times a week if not more!!!!!
Four times a week isn't much. I think it's normal to want sex once a day. How come you aren't in the mood? There are prescription meds available that might help get you in the mood.
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Old 12-30-2007, 07:54 PM
 
Location: Obama playing field
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Hmm, im no expert but perhaps you should buy him one of those blow up dolls, could lighten the load for ya? lmao..

Nahh, seriously. There are far too many variables as to why he is the way he is, not that we want to further intrude into your personal life but have you tried to get him to see a shrink? Perhaps he's been playing with some substances that makes him feel hotter than usual?
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Old 12-30-2007, 07:55 PM
 
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no tension other then everday stuff, same as every tom dick and harry. Just believes that he deserves it when he wants it everytime he wants it.
which to me with the attitude, seems like no regards for what i want. Doesnt seem like love to me.
Would like to know how many couples argue about this.
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Old 12-30-2007, 08:00 PM
 
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Four times a week isn't much. I think it's normal to want sex once a day. How come you aren't in the mood? There are prescription meds available that might help get you in the mood.
lets see.... not in the mood on occassion. I stay home with 2 yr old have 2 teenagers.

Mamma needs some time to herself which she rarely gets, from 6a - 8p someone is almost always in need of my assistance.

Apparently what I need or want are irrelevent.

and i said at least 4x a wk.... there are plenty times he does get daily, or darn near close.

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Old 12-30-2007, 08:02 PM
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I think that the problem is that instead of the two of you making love (where there is a lot of mutual affection involved), it's turned into sex. You just there satisfying his sexual needs and the act has become a chore for you. That would be a huge mood spoiler for me too.
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Old 12-30-2007, 08:07 PM
 
Location: California
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It's pretty normal for a man to want sex everyday but that doesn't mean you have to, he should show a little respect and self control. It's your body.
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Old 12-30-2007, 08:08 PM
 
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Thats about what it seems like to me too miu. and I sure dont know how to fix it. We're actually talking about going separate ways.
I dont want a relationship where i am made to feel bad when i just want to be left alone.
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Old 12-30-2007, 08:22 PM
 
Location: Nashville, TN
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no tension other then everday stuff, same as every tom dick and harry. Just believes that he deserves it when he wants it everytime he wants it.
which to me with the attitude, seems like no regards for what i want. Doesnt seem like love to me.
Would like to know how many couples argue about this.
He wants what he wants when he wants it!?!? He's just acting like any 2 year old. Tell him to grow up and realize that a healthy relationship is about both people's needs with compromise on both sides.
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