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Originally Posted by LIS123
I also find coffee dates to be a bit patronizing; it's as if the girl is screening you for a more legit date.
Well if it is OLD, then this is what is happening. It's a first meeting to find out if you want to have a date, but I've had several coffee dates that morph into dinner and drinks the same day if the chemistry is there.
Well if it is OLD, then this is what is happening. It's a first meeting to find out if you want to have a date, but I've had several coffee dates that morph into dinner and drinks the same day if the chemistry is there.
That hasn't been my experience @ all. I don't have so many first dates that going out to dinner makes the cost prohibitive. I seem to be in the minority on this, even amongst men, but it's an evidence-based decision (at least for me)
Dude, nobody goes skiing in the middle of a snowstorm. Most of the skiing happens on the sunny, calm, dry-weather days. In California, people go skiing in shorts. IDK, maybe the Canucks do it differently (where are "the Brunswicks?!), but in the States, skiing is a way to enjoy a bright, beautiful winter day. It doesn't have to be downhill skiing, either. Cross-country skiing is like literally a walk in the park, but you're gliding along on skiis. Try it, you might like it .
Yeah, a "beautiful sunny day" with highs around 35 F. Freeze my balls, no way I'm spending time outdoors in such weather. I've tried skiing before on a sunny 22 F day without any wind, and HATED IT . NEVER AGAIN.
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Most posters are listing things they enjoy. It is a 1st date. You do not know what the other person likes. A walk in the park? What if they hate the outdoors? A museum? What if they have no interest in that? Skating? What if they do not know how?
A nice quiet bar. You can talk and get to know each other.
Most posters are listing things they enjoy. It is a 1st date. You do not know what the other person likes. A walk in the park? What if they hate the outdoors? A museum? What if they have no interest in that? Skating? What if they do not know how?
A nice quiet bar. You can talk and get to know each other.
Some women don't like bars and don't do alcohol, though. So what you're saying is, for a first date, the dude should offer a couple of choices, in case she's not into any kind of museum at all (art museum, anthro museum, flight museum, antique car museum, history museum, really? There are people who aren't into any kind of museum at all?), doesn't skate, or hates the outdoors? If she hates the outdoors, the date's over anyway, bc she's not the woman for me.
But, whatever. Offering a choice isn't a bad idea.
Most posters are listing things they enjoy. It is a 1st date. You do not know what the other person likes. A walk in the park? What if they hate the outdoors? A museum? What if they have no interest in that? Skating? What if they do not know how?
A nice quiet bar. You can talk and get to know each other.
Well I hate bars and don't drink, so what should I do, then?
Personally, I don't see dinner or even lunch as a great idea, either. But I also find most people to be pretty disgusting while eating, so that's probably just me. But during a meal there's also so many possibilities for embarrassing moments, like knocking over a drink, dropping food on your shirt, etc. And if you're already a bit nervous and trying to eat as gracefully as possible, the possibility that you'll do something clumsy skyrockets.
Well I hate bars and don't drink, so what should I do, then?
Personally, I don't see dinner or even lunch as a great idea, either. But I also find most people to be pretty disgusting while eating, so that's probably just me. But during a meal there's also so many possibilities for embarrassing moments, like knocking over a drink, dropping food on your shirt, etc. And if you're already a bit nervous and trying to eat as gracefully as possible, the possibility that you'll do something clumsy skyrockets.
lolol! We get it, dude--you feel awkward during dates. So, best to avoid any potential booby traps, like tables with food and drink. Especially spaghetti.
So you can do the art gallery/museum/outdoor concert/park walk & feed the ducks/exploratorium thing.
And yeah, it's surprising how many people don't drink and/or hate bars. It isn't talked about much in our culture, so all those people are under the radar, but they're def out there.
Some women don't like bars and don't do alcohol, though. So what you're saying is, for a first date, the dude should offer a couple of choices, in case she's not into any kind of museum at all (art museum, anthro museum, flight museum, antique car museum, history museum, really? There are people who aren't into any kind of museum at all?), doesn't skate, or hates the outdoors? If she hates the outdoors, the date's over anyway, bc she's not the woman for me.
But, whatever. Offering a choice isn't a bad idea.
First of all I mean a nice bar in a restaurant, not the corner bar.
Yes, lots of people have no interest in museums of any type. I am glad I am not one of them but I would never ask someone to go to one on the first date.
I am willing to bet that more people don't know how to skate than do.
A public place that you can have a conversation which usually means a bar. She doesn't have to drink alcohol.
Do what brings out the best in you, your passion, your intellect, your creativity...whatever you love to do. Mine were/are dancing and sailing.
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