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I know the men I keep running into don't represent 100% of the US population but geesh - all I meet are men in their 40s who say they are bored, unhappy, sexless, etc. I online date time to time and after a few nibbles and pleasant chats I am then told "oh, I'm married. Is this a problem?"
I understand many people do not want to divorce for many reasons - even if unhappy. I just cannot get over the fact that "every" guy in my age group is unhappy and begging for a few crumbs of something from me. Many times it is only conversation or attention.
I'm kind of insulted too, BUT, overall, I am sad that this is the state of affairs.
So please, really, are any guys out there happy to be married to their chosen spouse? I am all into lifelong loyalty and commitment. I also believe in marrying the right person to the best of your ability.
Please restore some faith that people are happy to be married. To each other :P
SInce it will probably be asked: For the record - I was married to a great guy who died too early. I never thought what a mistake I had made or that I was bored. I also come from many branches of a family tree of content commited people - divorce isn't embraced in our family at all.
I know the men I keep running into don't represent 100% of the US population but geesh - all I meet are men in their 40s who say they are bored, unhappy, sexless, etc. I online date time to time and after a few nibbles and pleasant chats I am then told "oh, I'm married. Is this a problem?"
I understand many people do not want to divorce for many reasons - even if unhappy. I just cannot get over the fact that "every" guy in my age group is unhappy and begging for a few crumbs of something from me. Many times it is only conversation or attention.
I'm kind of insulted too, BUT, overall, I am sad that this is the state of affairs.
So please, really, are any guys out there happy to be married to their chosen spouse? I am all into lifelong loyalty and commitment. I also believe in marrying the right person to the best of your ability.
Please restore some faith that people are happy to be married. To each other :P
SInce it will probably be asked: For the record - I was married to a great guy who died too early. I never thought what a mistake I had made or that I was bored. I also come from many branches of a family tree of content commited people - divorce isn't embraced in our family at all.
I am.
But if your world is filled with a bunch of unhappy people, then it sounds as if you need new people in your life.
I've heard this lament from a couple of men, and my silent observation of them was that they didn't make a whole lot of effort toward their spouse, kids or household overall. Marriage requires effort on a regular basis, to maintain and grow a healthy relationship. Effort doesn't stop at I do, when you "get the girl". That's not the end point, it's merely the beginning.
If you don't put anything into your marriage, what are you expecting to get out of it? If you're bored, do something different and new to break the rut and routine. There's a quote out there that says only boring people are bored. There's always something you can do, but it requires not being lazy, irresponsible and acting like a victim.
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