Wife doesn't talk about her feelings

[halfamazing]

There is no such thing as dealing with it. We are not machines. Your wife is who she is but this is not who you are. I respect others' opinions but not everyone has the ability and capacity to simply stick it out. Just because you can stick it out and be miserable doesn't mean the OP has to subject himself to this.

A marriage is a commitment of understanding, COMMUNICATION and love. If the OP hadn't talked to her, he would be given advice to sit her down. But the OP has done so plenty times and now the advice is for him to deal with it. How much advice or sense is that? You can deal with that....

The best bet is to start asserting yourself and start making preparations. We don't go through life miserable just for the sake of it. Yes, it is easier said than done but communication is more important than she spreading her legs or baking a cake. If she isn't communicating, I can't see what else she is offering you. You need to let her know that she needsto play her part and communicate the reasons for either her being so closed off or if she has grown apart from you. Either way, she must communicate this. If you can't have her do it, then you must seek a counselor that will retract this information from you.

You will not go through life constantly wondering the “what ifs”. I am telling you that you will not. You will act now and accordingly otherwise you will be just like the rest of the miserable and hopeless families that fall victim to infidelity and or abuse, which by the way, knowingly and willfully not communicating with a spouse is a form of abuse.

P.S. People are people. You don't do well at your job, you get fired. After countless attempts to resolve marital problems, action must be taken. Doesn't mean you can't remain friends, but doesn't mean you must remain MISERABLE EITHER....

[Katnan]

OP, has she always been like this? If not, maybe she doesn't want to trouble you with things you can't do anything about while deployed?