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I did not post in that thread because I thought the premise of the thread was flawed and subject to semantic interpretation. My comment on what "most" (I did said most, not all) women think is far from speculation, it is based upon observation of the posts by women on this forum that they do not like numbering systems. If my statement were actually controversial, I would understand your point better.
You're attracted to attractive women, who, to make it simple and do away the whole 1-10 thing, are somewhere [/i]above you[i] on the food chain. Instinctively they know this and believe they can or should be doing better than you, so you're a second class citizen and will not be a man she genuinely desires.
Women below you on the food chain know where they stand as well and act accordingly. You can do virtually no wrong with these women because they know on some gut level they've found a bargain, so to speak, by gaining the attentions of a man higher on the food chain than they are, and will go out of they way to keep you happy with her and not straying.
An average looking woman that enjoys the same activities I do and is the outgoing artsy type is 1000x times more attractive to me than the type that is always dressed to the 9's and have that whole plastic look going on.
Everyone tells me I look like that Bear Grylls guy, including my girlfriend. I think he's supposedly attractive to most women. I'm terrible with women and always have been. It's more your charisma and how confident you are than anything else. It was nearly a month of slowly getting to know the girl I'm seeing now before I got the courage to ask her out. Haha I'm 30 and this is seriously the second relationship I've ever had. The first was years ago. It was more of a whirlwind relationship while we were training together.
My buddy looks like a slim version of Jason Alexander and woman are always falling for him. He's the type of guy who is the center of attention no matter where he is or who he's around. He's just got a gift to gab. Everyone loves him.
What about those of us who are not white knights and don't do numbering systems?
If logical means "agrees with me" then I suppose you have found a potential 3rd roommate for you and JBT1980!
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An average looking woman that enjoys the same activities I do and is the outgoing artsy type is 1000x times more attractive to me than the type that is always dressed to the 9's and have that whole plastic look going on.
Everyone tells me I look like that Bear Grylls guy, including my girlfriend. I think he's supposedly attractive to most women. I'm terrible with women and always have been. It's more your charisma and how confident you are than anything else. It was nearly a month of slowly getting to know the girl I'm seeing now before I got the courage to ask her out. Haha I'm 30 and this is seriously the second relationship I've ever had. The first was years ago. It was more of a whirlwind relationship while we were training together.
My buddy looks like a slim version of Jason Alexander and woman are always falling for him. He's the type of guy who is the center of attention no matter where he is or who he's around. He's just got a gift to gab. Everyone loves him.
I'll say FK off to this attractiveness scale stuff. As it is, I'm already feeling so low and stupid about myself, then why push me into a deeper abyss. I'm a broke failure, and unfit for any woman regardless of my looks.
Lets put it this way, even if I looked drop dead gorgeous, my weak personality AND vulnerability as a family provider will get me nowhere.
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I still do not see how the scale is important. It's not important at all. What happens when a woman supposedly below you on the scale doesn't treat you the way she is supposed to?
I have seen many couples that are not matched in class, etc. I've almost never seen couples that are mismatched in looks. If they ARE mismatched, then the better looking one has total power and free reign in the relationship.
This is based on my observations.
Nonsense. "Mismatched" (as you call it) couples are everywhere. This whole power-quotient calculation is also out of touch with reality. Couples don't work that way (I don't care what blog you got your mistaken impression from, no need to link it here). And how do you know the dude doesn't bring major influence to the table? If he makes the buckaroos, allowing her to stay home, by your reckoning, wouldn't he be the one who calls the shots?
But guess again--relationships don't work that way. The two parts of the couple don't size each other up on a 1-10 scale. For one thing, the scale you're using is broken, bc it doesn't factor the myriad aspects of personality, career and career success, status, raw talent, relative intelligence, and more that goes into a relationship.
I still do not see how the scale is important. It's not important at all. What happens when a woman supposedly below you on the scale doesn't treat you the way she is supposed to?
All women that I'm interested appear to be out of my league, since they either reject me or treat me as if I'm lucky to have them (suggesting that they are out of my league).
It's obvious when I'm out of a woman's league (the few times this has happened). I can basically do no wrong with these women.
You're BS-ing us again. You posted yesterday that you had a date with a woman who was into you, but you rejected her sexual request, so she said "adios". You've gotta stop BS'ing yourself and shooting yourself in the foot.
Nonsense. "Mismatched" (as you call it) couples are everywhere. This whole power-quotient calculation is also out of touch with reality. Couples don't work that way (I don't care what blog you got your mistaken impression from, no need to link it here). And how do you know the dude doesn't bring major influence to the table? If he makes the buckaroos, allowing her to stay home, by your reckoning, wouldn't he be the one who calls the shots?
Because I'm observing them in real life. I pay attention and I make friends very easily. I'm friends with multiple married couples right now and I pay attention to how they act towards each other, their body language, etc. The ones that clearly match up in attractiveness treat each other as equals. The ones where there is a mismatch (even a small one) results in the less attractive partner bending over backwards for the more attractive one.
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But guess again--relationships don't work that way. The two parts of the couple don't size each other up on a 1-10 scale. For one thing, the scale you're using is broken, bc it doesn't factor the myriad aspects of personality, career and career success, status, raw talent, relative intelligence, and more that goes into a relationship.
They have an internal 1-10 scale. Most people don't sit there and grade their date this way, but they still do it subconsciously. Yes, all of the other things matter, but my point is that the man will not even get to show the other stuff if his looks are not up to par.
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