Possible to turn a FWB into a boyfriend? (girlfriends, girls, family)
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I think I'm just going to go with the flow and then decide if it's going in the direction I want or not. A serious conversation is still pending. We'll see.
Do you want to/plan to have sex with him during that time?
Do you want to/plan to have sex with him during that time?
I'd like to, but first I want to see if he's actually interested in spending time with me without the sex. So far it seems like he is, we've been talking a lot about our lives and our troubles and exchanging writing with each other (we both really like to write).
It kind of seems like he'd be open to a relationship but I want to be sure before we get sexually involved again
He contacted me again later that week asking if I was interested in getting together again, so I ask what he expects from me, he says he doesn't want anything serious at the moment, which is fine, but that we can be cordial.
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Originally Posted by npca06
It kind of seems like he'd be open to a relationship but I want to be sure before we get sexually involved again
Seems like a recipe for disaster, if history truly does repeat itself. Why not take his word for it and not ruin a perfectly good FWB?
If I know one thing, it's that when a man says he doesn't want a relationship, it means he's not open to a relationship.
its not pushing anyone in to anything to make them think about what they are doing and where things are ultimately headed.
What you wrote of him doesnt speak of someone looking for a "serious" relationship. It's speaks like a young man unsure of what he is doing with himself becuase he has never fully thought it through. He hasn't had a reaosn to bother questioning anything, he is gettig what he wants right now from a willing participant.
I would advise you to stop having sex with him if you really want to know if a serious relationship is where things are headed.
It will also help you keep a clear head By not getting overly attached and make stupid decisions or over look the obvious. Sex for you as a female is a bad bad choice when trying to keep a clear mind about someone your are trying to feel out.
Last edited by rego00123; 11-11-2014 at 12:53 AM..
OP, Deep down, I think you already have a fear that if you don't sleep with him, he will go to someone elese and you don't want him to do that. What I want to know is this:
IS he such a prize, that you must throw away your self esteem or your personal values and you have to have to give him your precious body...but ALL he has to do here is:
1. Want it and,
2. Ask for it.
After that, he doesn't owe you anything, and the male ego being what it is, he'll be damned if he lets you talk him into a "serious" relationship when he doesn't want to be in one (WITH YOU) When a man wants a serious relationship he goes looking for one, and he makes it KNOWN he is looking for one. He isn't lured into one with sex....something he can get anywhere. Ladies, I don't care how young and pretty and toned you are. The sex thing just doesn't have the influence it used to with men, say, even ten years ago.
I'd like to, but first I want to see if he's actually interested in spending time with me without the sex. So far it seems like he is, we've been talking a lot about our lives and our troubles and exchanging writing with each other (we both really like to write).
It kind of seems like he'd be open to a relationship but I want to be sure before we get sexually involved again
This just sounds like he is putting in the bare minimum in order to keep having sex.
hi, you know. You should stop doing that.. having sex each time you meet a guy. its for your own good. You know you may end up getting any disease.
I know youre beautiful. you deserve something better.
remember what you used to be before and what you wanted to do/be before getting into this situatios.
Doesn't matter how you look outside, if youre looking for love or appreciation don't do this to yourself.
think about your dad and mom. youll end up hurting them down the road..
"everything happens for a reson" . learn from your mistakes. be the one u used to be before you got into Corell.
The test would be to go out, with sex not on the menu, spend the day together, you may find out that 12 hours with him in clothes was enough to not want to get serious with him...
Update: I have not seen him in a week, so we haven't slept together again, but we've kept in touch. I'm going through a rough patch right now and he has been really helpful and supportive to me. I did try to break things off with him a few days ago but he reached out as he noticed something was off.
It seems like we're friends and I may just leave it at that and nothing more, unless at some point both of us want to and not just me.
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