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so I had 6 dates with this guy and I initiated a 7th date. He said we could plan something this weekend.
I texted him last night( Friday) to ask which of the following two days he'd like to get together, he never responded back.
Should I text him again to just make sure he does/doesn't want to get together or let it go?
He seem to be someone who's courteous and I didn't expect him to be rude and play disappearing. We consistently been seeing each other on every weekends for over a month now. So the sudden silence stings.
Honestly, I would do nothing more with this guy if it is the old boyfriend you reconnected with that could not perform on the last date.
Let him initiate from now on, you are really starting to make yourself appear desperate, clingy and needy.
Just move on with your daily life and let him show you if he is actually interested or just humoring you.
Honestly, I would do nothing more with this guy if it is the old boyfriend you reconnected with that could not perform on the last date.
Let him initiate from now on, you are really starting to make yourself appear desperate, clingy and needy.
Just move on with your daily life and let him show you if he is actually interested or just humoring you.
I texted him last night just to follow through since he said we could plan sth
Just thought it's a common courtesy to let other part know weather or not the plan still stand
NO. It's up to him at this point. As you already indicated he knows how to reach you and has had no issues being prompt in the past. His change in behavior is telling.
Honestly, I would do nothing more with this guy if it is the old boyfriend you reconnected with that could not perform on the last date.
Let him initiate from now on, you are really starting to make yourself appear desperate, clingy and needy.
Just move on with your daily life and let him show you if he is actually interested or just humoring you.
So after 6 dates, it's only respectful to let the other person know that you are not interested. I do this with anyone I go out with more than 2 times, if they still want to see me and I don't feel the same, I would text politely say no and thank them for the time spent.
And to me, 3 dates is definitely enough time to know if I want to continue seeing someone. If I go out with someone more than 3 dates, there's some commitment involved. So it feels cheap some guy would disappear on me. Never happened to me before.
So after 6 dates, it's only respectful to let the other person know that you are not interested. I do this with anyone I go out with more than 2 times, if they still want to see me and I don't feel the same, I would text politely say no and thank them for the time spent.
And to me, 3 dates is definitely enough time to know if I want to continue seeing someone. If I go out with someone more than 3 dates, there's some commitment involved. So it feels cheap some guy would disappear on me. Never happened to me before.
I think people here agree with you. It IS common courtesy. It DOES hurt to have this happen.
But he obviously has a reason that he does not really want to contact you, and you have GOT to LET IT GO.
Please, for the sake of your dignity and his, do not contact him again.
so I had 6 dates with this guy and I initiated a 7th date. He said we could plan something this weekend.
I texted him last night( Friday) to ask which of the following two days he'd like to get together, he never responded back.
Should I text him again to just make sure he does/doesn't want to get together or let it go?
He seem to be someone who's courteous and I didn't expect him to be rude and play disappearing. We consistently been seeing each other on every weekends for over a month now. So the sudden silence stings.
he was being courteous, it would have been rude of him to answer texts when he's out on a date with his main girl
next time he's with you, would you want him texting his main girl during yalls date
just a lil something for you to ponder...
and btw, you did say date 6? well that means sex. i read it here on the board.
It really doesn't matter how many dates you have had. When one party shows that he/she is no longer interested, it is time to let it go. I don't recall that you mentioned that you have had the commitment discussion, so either of you can "disappear" according to your own way of showing that you are no longer interested. I agree with the suggestion of LET IT GO.
Judging from your posts, I don't blame him. Take three deep breathes and chill, girl. I'd suggest that you forget about him, and dating all together, until you're a little more confident and comfortable in your own skin. Take care of yourself, put yourself first, and roll with the punches.
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