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The more you post about your experiences....the more I REALLY feel like you should take a break from the dating scene.
You look way too far into things and "flip out" over nonsense.
You need to learn how to relax. Resolve your issues or at least get a handle on them.
That's the thing though. I did take a break. I really didn't date at all since I broke it off with my FWB in February. I took 7 months off, then went out with this girl that hit on me in September. Even then, I really didn't date THAT much. So it's only really been the last few weeks that I've been getting back into it.
I do agree that I need to learn how to relax. My mother, among others, has told me that many many times.
Though, I'm way better than I used to be when I had full-on anxiety attacks over dating.
In some ways, I think that my issues are similar to ATLguy here in that we can both attract women fairly easily, but they end up treating us like crap.
That's the thing though. I did take a break. I really didn't date at all since I broke it off with my FWB in February. I took 7 months off, then went out with this girl that hit on me in September. Even then, I really didn't date THAT much. So it's only really been the last few weeks that I've been getting back into it.
I do agree that I need to learn how to relax. My mother, among others, has told me that many many times.
Though, I'm way better than I used to be when I had full-on anxiety attacks over dating.
In some ways, I think that my issues are similar to ATLguy here in that we can both attract women fairly easily, but they end up treating us like crap.
It's my belief no one has it easy in dating.
I'm not the type to go out with people when they ask me or hit on me, nor am I the type to go out and try to meet people. It's tiresome and is unnecessary to me. All males I have been attracted to, I met by chance. To me that is the easiest way to go about it. Guys hit on me a lot, but they are usually @ssholes and womanizers. That's just my experience.
I just think you need to quit thinking so far into things with the women you meet. It really make you feel bad if things don't go the way you want. It is probably going to take a long time to actually "find" someone you can feel comfortable and compatible with so don't get your hopes when do go on a date.
Don't go into it thinking you have to please someone, or impress anyone. Just ease up, and if things don't work out. Who cares? You gave it your all. I just believe people freak out over dating way too much these days, and don't focus on what is really important: What they believe in, how they feel, and what makes them feel happy.
People who meet, for whatever reason, sometimes hit it off, and sometimes they don't. You can't make it happen. If it isn't there, it isnt't there. Say goodbye and move on. Maybe the next one will be a winner.
This. It sounds like she's not into you. And you're not into her, so why prolong the agony for both of you? Move on.
Whether you over reacted or not is currently a moot point, reading through this thread you have listed numerous things that went wrong with the date.
Don't waste her time or yours with a second date, I really doubt either of you will enjoy it much.
You both sound like people who should not be dating.
Seriously. And you completely prove my point about chivalry - it's an act. It's not genuine. You did not do those things out of genuine regard and kindness but with hopes of impressing.
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