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I met a guy 26 years my senior but at first we were unaware of this age gap. I'm in my late 20's and he thought I was obviously older. We met for a couple of months keeping things casual, I would go round for dinner, go out for lunch, we had sex several times within this period. One day the conversation came up regarding age and we both realised we didn't know how old the other person was. Turns out I looked older and he looked younger and there was a 26 year age difference. At first he said he found this weird but things carried on as normal, we laughed lots and enjoyed each other's company. I then get a message out of the blue saying that he could no longer do this anymore as he was uncomfortable with the age difference?
The reason why I'm confused is that when he didn't know the age gap, we got on so well, and I felt there was a 'spark' so to speak. The age gap doesn't bother me after knowing him for him
Can anyone offer any advice or any thoughts on this.
I don't understand what's so confusing. He obviously felt icky about such a huge gap and cut you loose. Not everyone is comfortable with a whole generational age gap.
Not everyone is comfortable with a whole generational age gap.
Pretty much this.
Reminds me of chick I knew. She talked to this guy online for a while and they were hitting it off. When the question of what race they were came up, she cut him off due to only wanting to date within her own race. I think it's silly. If you like someone, stuff like age or race shouldn't matter.
It was a problem when he found out the actual number of years in difference. I can see where it would be a problem, if he has a daughter/niece around your age....
Reminds me of chick I knew. She talked to this guy online for a while and they were hitting it off. When the question of what race they were came up, she cut him off due to only wanting to date within her own race. I think it's silly. If you like someone, stuff like age or race shouldn't matter.
I guess I'm finding it hard to accept because of how well we got on before the age thing came up.
some people are just not comfortable with certain age gaps, or racial differences. for instance my last girlfriend was a different race than i am, and she was uncomfortable with the race difference, but she was comfortable with me, so we stayed together.
I don't understand what's so confusing. He obviously felt icky about such a huge gap and cut you loose. Not everyone is comfortable with a whole generational age gap.
Exactly!
Pretty icky indeed to be dating someone that more than likely is younger than his own kids.
It may have been more than just "icky" for him. He may have been concerned that problems would arise due to the age gap - for example, someone your age is more likely to want kids and being in his 50s, maybe he is done having kids. He may have just come to the realization that you are in completely different stages in your lives and there would be no long term compatibility. I don't see what is "icky" about it - you're both adults, it's not like you're a teenager, you're nearly 30. But that doesn't mean you can overcome the common long term compatibility issues that can arise with a 26 year age gap.
It may have been more than just "icky" for him. He may have been concerned that problems would arise due to the age gap - for example, someone your age is more likely to want kids and being in his 50s, maybe he is done having kids. He may have just come to the realization that you are in completely different stages in your lives and there would be no long term compatibility. I don't see what is "icky" about it - you're both adults, it's not like you're a teenager, you're nearly 30. But that doesn't mean you can overcome the common long term compatibility issues that can arise with a 26 year age gap.
Thank you, that was helpful
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