please help! happy married couple with huge dilema! (people, like)
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This is completely your fault. You start out by saying you are open to a threesome but then get all butthurt when your hubby goes along with an activity you laid out and insisted on going to and paid to have him oil the ladies up. Its not like he had some secret steamy encounter, this was in front of a bar full of people so I'm sure though youre husband enjoyed it he was also a bit embaressed put on the stpot so its not exactly as if its a sensual experience when its in a front of a bar full of people.
You wanted to be the cool wife, you coudln't handle what you got yourself into and now your upset about it. This is not your husbands fault this is your fault
I started off by askung him if from what he experienced thst night if it made him now have temptations. He said no. He said he hadnt even thought about that stripper (every interaction he had was the same stripper).
I couldnt in a million years believe that he hadnt thought about their encounters.
This little small statement summarizes the issue in a nutshell. First of all, he is more than likely not going to admit to you if he had temptations or not. It's a loaded question. If he said he was then how would you react? Of course he's going to tell you no. Whether he was or wasn't is irrelevant. You have opened up a very dangerous door in your marriage. People do not see these things as harmful, but situations like this open the door for addiction, lust and opens the door for cheating.
In your openness you did not establish realistic boundaries. He is a man not a robot. If a man has an attractive woman, half-clothed dancing in front of him and he's allow to rub on her, then what is really stopping him from going all the way? He can always rationalize it by saying you condoned it. Hopefully this never gets to that point.
Not only do you all need marriage counseling, but you also need therapy yourself. You are in denial about your relationship. If you really felt as though you were satisfying him then this would have been extremely unnecessary for you do. It seems deep down, in your own insecure way, you wanted to know how he would react to another woman and if he would perhaps reject another woman because of his attraction to you. You are playing a dangerous game. Men can very easily get involved with another woman and not get emotionally attached to her. He may have not seen it as harmful, but you realized at that moment that he does not necessarily see you in the manner that you want him to. The question becomes why do you need him to hold you on a pedestal in that way? Also why do you feel as though you can manipulate him?
Do you guys actually read these one hit posts? They are getting raunchier and raunchier. Doesnt City Data have any rules at all?? Maybe these posters are trying to see how much they can get away with.
Do you guys actually read these one hit posts? They are getting raunchier and raunchier. Doesnt City Data have any rules at all?? Maybe these posters are trying to see how much they can get away with.
Seriously....
THIS IS CITY-DATA, NOT LITEROTICA! And by the way, the story is not that good, and filled with grammatical errors. Sheesh.......
THIS IS CITY-DATA, NOT LITEROTICA! And by the way, the story is not that good, and filled with grammatical errors. Sheesh.......
Seriously I think there's a lot of sex starved people out there...
They get on here & post their made up sleazy stories.....
Isn't there somewhere else they can post their raunchy stuff??
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