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Old 12-01-2014, 11:44 AM
 
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What's the price ranges for Divorce Attorney's, and the time fame from start to finish? I know it will vary, but tell me what the average payment to expect. Thank-You.
Take above poster's advice. A divorce can cost as little as a couple thousand (or less), or as much as several hundred thousand dollars (or more).

It is hard to tell you where to begin because we don't know anything about your circumstances. My advice would be to develop a plan. How are you going to share this with your spouse? What is their likely reaction? If they are amicable, things could go smoothly, cost less, and get done in a year. If your spouse is miserable, vows revenge, argues over every detail, and seeks to make your life a living hell the process can go on for a decade, cost a fortune, and you will both wish you were dead rather than try to resolve everything which needs to be shared.

Many states vary, and the nuances are many. Generally think they you are going to "share" everything 50/50. If it ends up being 60/40, or even 70/30, think long and hard before you get into a battle. Like it was stated, those Sears paintings that you really LOVE can be replaced for $20, or you can spend $10,000 with motions and court appearance arguing over them. Don't let it become emotional. Be generous. Be contrite. Be gracious. Be understanding. Swallow your pride. Don't be unreasonable. Remember the goal: Be single once again.

Avoid lawyers as much as is humanly possible. The first question they will ask is "what are you worth" as if, well, what are we "fighting" over here and how will I protect you from your spouse getting "any" of it. WRONG! What they are really asking is, "how much do you have" while they do a mental calculation of "well, I can get a third of that in fees if I can get these people really battle it out". Try to work it out with your spouse, file a simple form with the court, and engage in mediation if necessary.

Good luck. Divorce will tear at your deepest emotions. Save those times for late at night over a stiff cocktail. During the "business" aspect of the divorce, be on your best game, protect yourself, and don't lose sight of the end result.
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Old 12-01-2014, 02:01 PM
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Yep, it's pretty much a business deal in the end. If things didn't come as such as a surprise, then things would have been done much easier on my end.

E.g., I could have easily refinanced our mortgage and put it in my name while still married. Most paperwork could have been completed by move out day.
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Old 12-01-2014, 05:28 PM
 
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Thank-You so much.
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Old 12-01-2014, 05:46 PM
 
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Yep, it's pretty much a business deal in the end. If things didn't come as such as a surprise, then things would have been done much easier on my end.

E.g., I could have easily refinanced our mortgage and put it in my name while still married. Most paperwork could have been completed by move out day.
That's mostly what a divorce is. It is a business and legal acknowledgement that a marriage is over. The more you treat it like a business transaction the easier it is. When emotions and hurt run charged it is what tends to make it messy, more painful and more expensive.
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Old 12-01-2014, 06:30 PM
 
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Congrats


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Old 12-01-2014, 09:06 PM
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During the divorce process, I was incredibly angry. I shared my emotions with one of my sisters who went through a quite nasty divorce and is now happily remarried.

She shared some advice with me:

"Save all the nasty comments for AFTER the divorce. When it's final and there's nothing left to squabble over."

So I took this advice, and didn't really have the desire to lash out at my exwife when it was over.

I'm a better man for it.
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Old 12-04-2014, 01:06 PM
 
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During the divorce process, I was incredibly angry. I shared my emotions with one of my sisters who went through a quite nasty divorce and is now happily remarried.

She shared some advice with me:

"Save all the nasty comments for AFTER the divorce. When it's final and there's nothing left to squabble over."

So I took this advice, and didn't really have the desire to lash out at my exwife when it was over.

I'm a better man for it.
welcome to the club. My advice is stay busy, keep yourself in good shape and work on being happy.
I wouldn't put any time limit on dating. Just take what comes and don't worry about it.
Also, don't be surprised if she wakes up one day and tries to come back. It happens a lot. Mine tries about every 6 months. but I kick her back to the curb....
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Old 12-04-2014, 01:08 PM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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Can't even imagine what you're going through. Good luck moving forward!
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Old 12-06-2014, 12:56 PM
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Oh great.

Now she wants to be "friends" on Facebook.

You have to be kidding me.
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Old 12-06-2014, 12:58 PM
 
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Oh great.

Now she wants to be "friends" on Facebook.

You have to be kidding me.
I'd block her so fast it wouldn't be funny.
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