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I was rejected recently by a girl that I thought was perfect for me. Definitely not perfect in general but perfect for me, she was the best fit.
Anyways she basically rejected me because she isn't really ready for anything too serious and I am BF material to her after we hung out so many times.
Anyways my stomach is in knots and I feel horrible. How do I get over this? Is it just time?
I keep circling back and thinking I shouldn't have invited her to do certain things or acted a certain way (like a bF or nice guy) and it is driving me crazy.
its the type of feeling like I don't know how I am going to move on from this, I can't see life without her in it.
I was rejected recently by a girl that I thought was perfect for me. Definitely not perfect in general but perfect for me, she was the best fit.
Anyways she basically rejected me because she isn't really ready for anything too serious and I am BF material to her after we hung out so many times.
Anyways my stomach is in knots and I feel horrible. How do I get over this? Is it just time?
I keep circling back and thinking I shouldn't have invited her to do certain things or acted a certain way (like a bF or nice guy) and it is driving me crazy.
its the type of feeling like I don't know how I am going to move on from this, I can't see life without her in it.
The best way to get over rejection is to avoid viewing another person as "perfect" for you.
By doing that, you set yourself up for this.
As for the cyclical thinking, you need to understand that it's not all about you. You can't control her thoughts and emotions. Nothing you did could change this. She doesn't want to be with you, and you don't want to be with a woman who doesn't want you.
You've heard the phrase "get a life"? Now is the time to get a life, especially when you start telling yourself you can't see life without her in it. Focus on the things you do that have real meaning.
There are so many women out there, knowing this and getting out of the house will help. It's alright to feel a bit bummed out, but you should look past it, rejection is a part of life, all you can do is try, so try again, with a different girl. Good luck.
Anyways she basically rejected me because she isn't really ready for anything too serious and I am BF material to her after we hung out so many times.
You're not BF material to her. If you were, she'd find the time for you, and not make lame excuses. The "I'm not ready right now/I'm too busy right now" lines are just that - excuses.
If you "hung out so many times", you're probably just a friend to her and nothing else, which is why she rejected your advances.
You should read this...it's satire but very appropriate to this thread:
I was rejected recently by a girl that I thought was perfect for me. Definitely not perfect in general but perfect for me, she was the best fit.
Anyways she basically rejected me because she isn't really ready for anything too serious and I am BF material to her after we hung out so many times.
Anyways my stomach is in knots and I feel horrible. How do I get over this? Is it just time?
I keep circling back and thinking I shouldn't have invited her to do certain things or acted a certain way (like a bF or nice guy) and it is driving me crazy.
its the type of feeling like I don't know how I am going to move on from this, I can't see life without her in it.
My best guess is that she wasn't the person you thought she was. You were projecting a lot onto her that wasn't there. For example, she's apparently into casual dating and maybe casual sex, while you're looking for an LTR. You may have had fun hanging out with her, but you didn't get to know her more deeply. If you had, you might have seen that she wasn't as good a fit as you initially thought.
I know its counter intuitive but for a lot of women if you are too nice and want her too much she won't be interested in you. Yeah that is woman's logic for you. Attraction isn't a choice its a feeling that either happens or doesn't happen. Men being a pleaser and a yes man doesn't create attraction.
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