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I had a thought — a tiny, little thought — that I loved him. It seemed preposterous. It seemed laughable. I shooed it away immediately. But that thought started creeping into my mind whenever he was away. That thought sneaked in whenever he did something nice or made me laugh.
And it all came down to this moment — one moment when he was cooking me dinner, and he looked over and smiled at me. I knew this was it. This was the moment where I had to decide if I could allow myself to love a man against everything I had previously known about myself. This was the moment when I had to decide if I was going to take a step forward into this crazy idea of telling my best friend that I loved him.
...We had no idea how to make this work. We had no idea if this even could work. Sometimes we still don’t. It took time — years even — to figure it out. But it’s a relationship. None of us know what we’re doing. We just try and negotiate and compromise. And, little by little, you become just another boring couple.
...We have this myth of identity — that who we are is the summation of a lot of choices we made in the past. That we’ve got a map for the life we’re supposed to lead, and we’ve got to stick to it. But that’s assuming that we’re all static beings, and that’s not how people work at all.
What makes me wonder is the point when they get to the bedroom, so to speak. That's the part that seems like it would be more of a stretch to switch from opposite-sex to same-sex. We tend to equate love with sexuality, but can two people be in a same-sex romantic relationship and be heterosexual, or is this just a case of a man who didn't realize that he is bisexual?
I guess we should congratulate him for making a choice he totally has the freedom to do? He is still struggling with his sexuality even though he is proclaiming how comfortable he is with his choice. I guess he doesn't realize some of us choose to be straight not because society has pressured us to conform but that we are naturally wired this way as well.
Good for him, although I'm disappointed by the unnecessary reference to "Otherwise Straight Man."
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