Don't feel comfortable showing affection, is there a problem? (Asian, husband, friend)

[TabulaRasa]

I call BS.

The OP went from "I don't feel comfortable expressing affection, is there a problem?" to "I would like to know how I can make her understand her behaviour has no place in this culture," pretty quickly.

Translation: "I only want to hear that, no, there is no problem, and that yes, it is normal and acceptable for me to refuse physical contact with my partner except when I am getting laid, and what can I do to make my partner recognize this and stop both touching me and showing emotion in my presence or in front of our child?"

Because that's not at all weird or unrealistic.

[MastroBar]

Originally Posted by Adhom

Translation: We may have a relationship and a child together but I'm constantly embarrassed you're not Swiss.

Not really, she's perfectly integrated and speaks flawless German.

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by Zeurich

I was there last month there are enough men and woman holding hands hugging each other. He might be talking about a village named swiss somewhere else in this wold I guess

Yeah, my brother-in-law just got back from Zurich. I'll have to ask him if he witnessed or was subjected to any touching or visible emotion while there.

[BirdieBelle]

Dude, you procreated with an American girl. She is who she is, just as you are who you are. By the way, you sound like a robot.

Maybe you should post your question on a Swiss relationships forum to get the answers you want to hear.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by MastroBar

Only a child holds his/her mother's hand. I feel ridiculous doing it.

Truly, the problem is yours, not hers.

Until you can accept that you will continue to be unhappy.

[Mikala43]

I had an Uncle from Switzerland..... he was affectionate with his wife in public.

[Zeurich]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

Truly, the problem is yours, not hers.

Until you can accept that you will continue to be unhappy.

That is for sure! For me look like a stone inside.

[MastroBar]

Originally Posted by Zeurich

I was there last month there are enough men and woman holding hands hugging each other.

They are mostly tourists...there are personal space rules here.

[MastroBar]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

Truly, the problem is yours, not hers.

Until you can accept that you will continue to be unhappy.

I'll speak with her and see if we can come to an agreement.

I also think she babies the boy too much but anyway, she's a very good mother.

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by MastroBar

They are mostly tourists...there are personal space rules here.

Rules? lol