Don't feel comfortable showing affection, is there a problem?

[Jenna1343]

Op, your girlfriend sounds lovely. I'm sorry you don't appreciate that she wants to show you that she loves you.

I have family from Switzerland. They are well educated, nice people. They're affectionate with their SO's and their children.

[TabulaRasa]

Are you sure they're not tourists?

[Zeurich]

Originally Posted by MastroBar

It doesn't. It's obviously not a written rule.

Really are you sure those rules were not written on your head? It is your life but you cannot expect the others to live as you want. If care for your son you better take advice from a therapist. I don't see no healthy living with you. I am sure your partner is very patient person than me other wise she left you already

[MastroBar]

Originally Posted by Jenna1343

Op, your girlfriend sounds lovely. I'm sorry you don't appreciate that she wants to show you that she loves you.

Of course she's lovely but she has to respect my personal space.

[TabulaRasa]

Are you not under the same spousal obligation to meet her needs?

For that matter, why did you even choose her as a partner if her personality is so antithetical to yours?

[Jenna1343]

Originally Posted by MastroBar

Of course she's lovely but she has to respect my personal space.

Did you know that "personal space" is often theorized to act as a buffer from perceived threats? Often times, highly anxious people and/or schizophrenics experience severely negative reactions to having their personal space invaded. Not saying you are, just saying that I can see in some situations where this might arise.

Affection is a form of emotional communication. I think you both need to go to counseling. She'll need to understand that it's not personal against her. You'll need to understand that her display of love isn't an attack on you.

[Djuna]

Originally Posted by MastroBar

Of course she's lovely but she has to respect my personal space.

God, did you read what you wrote? It comes across really, really negatively and makes you look bad dude. I would never be with a guy like you but if I somehow found out after the fact that you had a stick up your butt, I'd dump you faster than a bad chilli meal the next day.

Oh and by the way, yes there is a problem...you.

[Hawk J]

Originally Posted by MastroBar

No, I would like to know how I can make her understand her behaviour has no place in this culture.

Give her kisses & hugs (((hugs)))...hold her hand. You might like it.

If you don't like to display affection in public, do so when your by yourselves. Love & affection is very important, believe me.....

[MastroBar]

Originally Posted by Djuna

God, did you read what you wrote? It comes across really, really negatively and makes you look bad dude.

Why? I'm just stating the obvious.

[Djuna]

Originally Posted by MastroBar

Why? I'm just stating the obvious.

Sure you are, please come back after she dumps you and takes your child far away from you for being a cold fish.