Have you dated someone who was clearly a racist and why? (girl, loving)
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I dated a couple of them, the kind that keep their racism to themselves for the most part only to have it spew out in a crazy way later. In these situations I dated them only because it took a first date to figure out that they were this way. They hid it very well when trying to impress me.
Good thing you found out before it got serious. There's a lot of white guys that don't date white women who date black men.
It was serious, lol, we'd been together for a year at that point! It just had never come up until a couple we both knew, (white female, asian male- -whose wedding we attended!) found out they were having a baby. He made some slick joke about that, and well, obviously the rest is history..
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Originally Posted by Sweet Like Sugar
Eh...racism, prejudice...it's all the same to me. People are just afraid to admit that they most likely hold some racist views. Who's to say how many or what kind of racist views someone needs to have before they are considered a racist?
This is pretty much common sense
Most things that people do or don't do that are motivated by race are predijuced and or racist
I wouldn't care that much about it if a woman I'm dating has some racial attitudes. Most humans have certain insecurities and are that way (but no KKK nutjobs will be tolerated obviously).
If we click in most other ways and she is hot, then I will mostly likely continue with the relationship all the same.
Assuming you're not of course. Just because, he/she didn't use a derogatory slur towards a race frequently or was a Klan member, but still felt very uncomfortable around a different race, says stuff like "interracial dating is gross" or says that they wouldn't hire fill in the blank race but had no issues being polite to them.
If so, why?
Mod comment: Please tread lightly, people. I've already deleted some inappropriate posts. Please don't be specific about any particular race(s). You can answer the OP's question without going there. Thanks.
Not him, but his mom. I heard slurs about my race all the time, and eventually got tired of it. I brought it up with him, but he never saw it, saying it's "just how we talk".
We're actually still friends, but broke up romantically. I couldn't imagine a lifetime of the put downs and comments.
I'm racist when dating, so what? I have never found anyone of another race attractive nor do I want to explore the possibility. I speak for the silent majority.
The problem isn't with personal preferences but the intolerance of tolerance, ironic
I really don't care who any Joe on the street dates, asian, white, black, what do I care? Free world, and I don't think any less of him/her for being racially diverse. But truthfully what would their views be towards me? Close minded, bigot, backwards, and any other slang they could think of. That's a personality disorder and truthfully it is kind of scary. I always had a hard time wrapping my mind around how anyone could harbor that much ingrained hate. Letting children around these types of folk probably isn't in the best of interest.
I tolerate and respect other's views, ideas and preferences and others simply do not.
When I was in my early 20's, I was in a casual relationship with a guy I had known for years for about two months when he joined the Aryan Nations. They were originally formed in prisons to protect white inmates against the gangs that focused on like-races. The more educated members are the ones that preach empowering the white race since the government only offers protections to the minorities. The less educated don't bother to hide their feelings with rational explanations.
He was constantly going off about it and I stayed for about four more months and argued every point he made. I'll admit that I thought I could be a positive influence and that was an epic fail. He hated everything I was as a person, the differing opinions on race, religion and politics. He finally accused me of sleeping with a black man and became angrier when I didn't see how it was worse that it was a black man as cheating was cheating. I was more upset over that than the false accusation. I broke up with him, but maintained distant contact.
He's left the AN and joined the National White Socialist party. He's learned to keep his opinions to himself on the issues that regard race.
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