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Old 06-30-2012, 12:23 PM
 
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for a 65 year old anything under 35 is just irrational. A woman under 35 is more than likely using you for stability. Trust, (I'm 23) we are not trying to date anybody over 30 (unless you hand over the wallet). Your hair is graying, if not white, by the time your pushing 65 that is NOT a turn on to a woman in her 20s. When she's in her 40s you'll be pushing the 80s, not a turn on.

Sex wise, HELL no. If she's having sex with you, your definitely getting used! Hands down.

For the older man, don't kid yourself. 65 with 23 is just irrational. 65 should stick with 35 and up. You won't get your feelings hurt in the long run. Because, more than likely, she will regret having to date an older man when she's in prime (45) and your pushing 85. And, if your using Viagra, its a wrap! Your just putting more wear and tear on your body.

 
Old 06-30-2012, 12:57 PM
 
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Godbless him
 
Old 06-30-2012, 01:02 PM
 
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I think people should MYOB. Other people are not in the relationship. Maybe he can't drive any longer...and likes being with her. Maybe she has been hurt by younger men, and likes being with an older, more stable, predictable guy. Maybe...they are very much in love and happy. And what anyone else thinks is irrelevant.
 
Old 06-30-2012, 01:07 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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for a 65 year old anything under 35 is just irrational. A woman under 35 is more than likely using you for stability. Trust, (I'm 23) we are not trying to date anybody over 30 (unless you hand over the wallet). Your hair is graying, if not white, by the time your pushing 65 that is NOT a turn on to a woman in her 20s. When she's in her 40s you'll be pushing the 80s, not a turn on.

Sex wise, HELL no. If she's having sex with you, your definitely getting used! Hands down.

For the older man, don't kid yourself. 65 with 23 is just irrational. 65 should stick with 35 and up. You won't get your feelings hurt in the long run. Because, more than likely, she will regret having to date an older man when she's in prime (45) and your pushing 85. And, if your using Viagra, its a wrap! Your just putting more wear and tear on your body.
65 and 35 is still pretty gross/silly, if you ask me.


But to each their own.
 
Old 06-30-2012, 01:08 PM
 
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A friend of mine with whom I recently became reaquainted after losing touch for a year or two begrudgingly revealed to me that she was involved with a much older man. She is 32 (but her appearance is so youthful that she still gets carded), and he is 65. I say begrudgingly because, I suppose, since we hadn't spoken in a while, perhaps she thought I would judge her unfairly or harshly, which was not the case. To each her own, whatever floats your boat [insert desired cliche here].

Anyway, my question here is about judgment; since I know this particular woman, I am aware of certain issues that she has. Therefore, I know she is not a "gold-digger" or any other negative stereotype that some might place on a younger woman who dates a much older man. I know she definitely has concerns about being "taken care of," but I mean that as in emotionally, not financially. So, regardless of my friend in particular, as a whole, how does society view a woman dating a man that much older than her?

Out of curiosity: if you saw a woman walking down the street with a man who could perhaps be as old as her father, older uncle, or even grandfather, what would you think if you saw them holding hands and kissing romantically?
I just wonder how the general public views this kind of relationship.
She's in her 30s. It's not like she is a kid anymore. Maybe the 65 year old was a late bloomer and wants a family before kicking off. Middle aged woman with older men is nothing to look twice at. If she was teens or early 20s, I could see raising an eyebrow over it.
 
Old 06-30-2012, 11:50 PM
 
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I think often when a much younger woman is dating or married to a much older man they are either gold-diggers or have a father complex and are emotionally looking for a father image in their life. Personally I would be embarassed to be her age and holding hand and kissing in public a man that was twice my age.
 
Old 07-01-2012, 06:40 AM
 
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I had a man who was in his 60s buzzing around me. He is old enough to be my Father and in fact his two sons are closer in age too me.

I was only interested in being friends with him but he kept pushing. I found his interest in me daunting. I tried to tell him I only wanted to be friends and he didn't listen.

I thought of him as kind of pervy as well because he was pushy with me trying to get me into bed with him and so forth.

With this man, I believe he was looking for someone that would take care of him and I have no interest in that kind of relationship.

I look at women strangely when the age spread is that far apart.

I don't blame you for thinking of him as a perv. Any guy of ANY age 'buzzing around just looking for sex' should wear that label (yeah, I'm an old fashion guy).

As far as May/December romance? Well as long as the older guy has class, is a gentleman, I guess I don't see an issue with it.

My neighbors, a few houses down, they're like that; he's an old gent, she is much younger and adores him. She likes to feel needed she says.
 
Old 07-01-2012, 10:46 AM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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I don't know about the women you slept with who were over 40 but in my circle the women over 40 are hot and ready and pretty wild.

FYI most women are not menopausal until at least 50.
How true! Furthermore, sex does not have to end at menopause.
 
Old 07-01-2012, 04:51 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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Not a good idea for either one!
 
Old 07-01-2012, 05:04 PM
 
Location: In my view finder.....
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Default 65 Year Old Man With MUCH Younger Woman?

sounds normal to me.
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