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It seems that you will ignore the advice that you don't want to hear (although I don 't agree with some of it, either) and yet you agree with a supposed psychic????
But, but, but...he does this science for a living!!!! You, too, will be amazed!
It seems that you will ignore the advice that you don't want to hear (although I don 't agree with some of it, either) and yet you agree with a supposed psychic????
Not at all. I responded to everybody and I actually said that I don't only want to hear the good. And I will take the bad stuff under consideration because that's why I started that thread. It's somewhere in those 10 pages. It just went beyond a point of the OP and kept coming back to something I am aware of and that I have adressed already so there was no need to keep beating a dead horse (cow?)
I am going to stay out of the pushing buttons stuff and all other than to say, you know you have done that and are in control of your behavior. You do not have to be that person with this guy.
Besides that, my wife and I knew each other through writing and stuff for a long time before we met. I think we had an idea we liked each other before we met on our first date. However, that date certainly confirmed that we had strong feelings for each other, and showed us we had great chemistry. Subsequent dates just got better and better.
Ironically, I was just past 30 by this point too and figured "all the good ones were taken" and all that nonesense.
Since you are very smitten here, be sure you protect your heart a little too. Do not forget to analyze and evaluate him, his behavior, and the true intentions of his own heart... but enjoy too!
To build on what I wrote earlier, I simply knew the moment I met my wife. Period. As I've said any number of times on this forum, it was if a door had opened and I just had to step through it.
We met on June 9, 1990. We were engaged on September 9, 1990. And in the interim, we managed to see each other A LOT, despite her traveling on business 50% of the time and my being involved in an all-consuming project.
To me, the one caution I would have here is to really get beyond the external golly-we-both-love-the-same-things bit and get down to business in the comparing of values. For that's really where the rubber meets the road. My wife and I often have different tastes in a host of things, from movies to books to everything else. But we see eye-to-eye on the things that matter.
Very true.
The compatibility that matters is one of values, not, "Oh, HE likes motocross and I always wished I could do motocross! And he's hot and nice!" That's nice, but not essential.
And I'm skeptical a true compatibility of values has been fully vetted in the amount of time that's lapsed since Dec. 8. I just am. Exploring that takes time.
Not at all. I responded to everybody and I actually said that I don't only want to hear the good. And I will take the bad stuff under consideration because that's why I started that thread. It's somewhere in those 10 pages. It just went beyond a point of the OP and kept coming back to something I am aware of and that I have adressed already so there was no need to keep beating a dead horse (cow?)
The thing is, since those same insecurities keep popping up, and are key in the situation at hand, I wouldn't call them dead horses or consider them addressed. Lots of things you've said in this thread alone indicate that that's not the case.
The compatibility that matters is one of values, not, "Oh, HE likes motocross and I always wished I could do motocross! And he's hot and nice!" That's nice, but not essential.
And I'm skeptical a true compatibility of values has been fully vetted in the amount of time that's lapsed since Dec. 8. I just am. Exploring that takes time.
The thing is, since those same insecurities keep popping up, and are key in the situation at hand, I wouldn't call them dead horses or consider them addressed. Lots of things you've said in this thread alone indicate that that's not the case.
okay. I like working on myself, becoming a better person and my friends are very critical and help me with very input.
You do not fall in love with somebody you do not know.
You might THINK that's what falling in love is, but you are confusing infatuation/enjoying attention from somebody with love.
You can think somebody's an intriguing person after a conversation with him, a date with him, two dates with him, etc., but what you are calling "being in love?" Not love. Sorry. You can't love somebody until you have time to learn his or her character. You can be attracted, sure. You can be attracted to somebody on sight. But that's not love.
And, really, you're more than old enough and experienced enough to know all this.
Awww, you know what I mean.
It is the physical attraction with all that pheromene stuff that people call FALLING IN LOVE. The chemistry is there, and after a while it will turn into LOVE or NOT.
He told me I smell amazing and I didn't even put on perfume. So on the weekend we watched THE SCIENCE OF SEX APPEAL (you can watch it for free on the internet). It explains everything about smells, physical attraction, etc. etc. and explains what happened to us on our first dates.
yes, we met last Monday, Dec. 8. It was love on first sight for him. For me it was the second date.
I was on POF for 2 days. Saw his profile. Didn't like his pics too much. He got an email that I looked at his profile. Checked out mine. Saw a motorcycle pic and wrote to me, not really expecting an answer.
I was hesitant to answer and meet but thought OH WELL, he is local, at least no far driving. Met after 3 days of writing messages on POF.
Good luck, you guys look cute together!
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