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Old 12-20-2014, 11:17 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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Like without having so say anything?
Like imagine you are in class or you spot a guy at a store or something.
They ask, "How's that TV dinner?" you're staring at.

[hungryman]
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Old 12-21-2014, 12:24 AM
 
Location: California
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For what I read there are subtle signs:

1. Smiling and touching you briefly

2. Stroking her hair

3. When she is sitting down, she leans towards you to "listen"

4. Sitting with legs crossed she points her toes towards you.

We men are more straightforward but women give signs alright...subtle but if you look carefully those are there.
#1 and #3 I can probably detect easily, but #2 and #4? Wtf? People do those in public all the time, and are hardly noticeable or noteworthy. Just because some women decide to send me extremely vague signals and I don't pick it up doesn't make me stupid.
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Old 12-21-2014, 01:08 AM
 
Location: Spokane, Washington
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Like without having so say anything?
Like imagine you are in class or you spot a guy at a store or something.
Eye contact, smiling, asking questions...and unfortunately, since I'm the friendly type as it is, I sometimes have to say, "Hi, I think you're awesome, wanna hang out sometime?." This seems to do the trick every time.
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Old 12-21-2014, 01:10 AM
 
Location: Spokane, Washington
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Girls flirt in different ways.I usually joke and wink.
I suck at winking...last time I tried that, someone asked me if I had something in my eye, and as it was, I did end up getting a flake of mascara in my eye and looked like a total idiot.
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Old 12-21-2014, 03:55 AM
 
Location: Windsor, Ontario, Canada
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#1 and #3 I can probably detect easily, but #2 and #4? Wtf? People do those in public all the time, and are hardly noticeable or noteworthy. Just because some women decide to send me extremely vague signals and I don't pick it up doesn't make me stupid.
It's when they are interacting with you, and sitting beside you.
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Old 12-21-2014, 08:09 AM
 
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Human race is the stupidest of them all. There is nothing wrong with keeping it simple. If you are interested in someone, just ask. Speak. Communicate. Converse.

Did I forget to say talk?
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Old 12-21-2014, 08:14 AM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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It's when they are interacting with you, and sitting beside you.
Yep.

I was never really "taught" about specific indicators of interest as far as I can recall. I just kind of figured them out on my own via intuition...way back in high school in the mid-90s. The signs are often subtle but they're usually not THAT hard to pick up on...even when you're in a group or a crowd. Moreso than the signals...the very vibe a girl or woman gives off is different when she's attracted to you.

I suspect most women can tell in a heartbeat whether a different woman is interested in some guy. Maybe because they've used similar IOI's themselves and are experienced enough that the whole "mating dance" thing (from a feminine standpoint) comes naturally to them. However I also think many guys can tell quite easily once they have an idea of what to look for. In other words, the whole "once you see it you can't unsee it" phenomenon. It's the "figuring out what to look for" that's often the stumbling block. Some boys and men figure it out naturally (possibly with a little subtle guidance from peers) as part of growing up from a teen into a young adult. Others are more dense and need more blunt and forceful methods to get it...and even then they may never actually be any good at picking up the signs.

Personally, I suspect that guys who either (a) have a similarly-aged sister and/or (b) have good female friends - are in better position while in their middle/high-school and college years to learn how to read the body language and emotions of girls and women in general, including signals of possible interest. Especially if (a) and (b) carry themselves in a feminine way.
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Old 12-21-2014, 05:26 PM
 
Location: Cleverly concealed
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I'm much better at determining when a woman is not interested.

Unfortunately, I seem to know a lot of women who are playful with everyone, the kind who will touch your hand or elbow, or the kind who laugh at everything, for example. It's difficult for my literal mind to separate fact from fiction.
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Old 12-21-2014, 05:33 PM
 
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I'm much better at determining when a woman is not interested.

Unfortunately, I seem to know a lot of women who are playful with everyone, the kind who will touch your hand or elbow, or the kind who laugh at everything, for example. It's difficult for my literal mind to separate fact from fiction.
then be playful back with those women. i am. as long as you are not pushing for more than they are willing to give, take what they are willing to give, and no more. it will serve you in the long run being the fun loving guy that doesnt pressure the girls. once you are comfortable doing that, you can start to refine your "game" with women, and be that guy the women like to hang around.
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Old 12-21-2014, 08:37 PM
 
Location: Pa
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I suck at winking...last time I tried that, someone asked me if I had something in my eye, and as it was, I did end up getting a flake of mascara in my eye and looked like a total idiot.
Lol I hate when that happens, hurts like a mother.Usually I do it after he fumbles over words.*wink* it's ok.
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