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Jenna, I have only been dumped one other time. So that may be part of it. For the others, please remember this was my first serious relationship in quite a while. While it may seem I am way strung up on this, having everyone tell me to move on is just going to help me develop the ability to do just that. I do firmly believe that in the world of relationships the next one will always be better until you have found the one. I guess bottom line right now is I haven't found the next one yet, so I am still thinking about the last.
Jenna, I have only been dumped one other time. So that may be part of it. For the others, please remember this was my first serious relationship in quite a while. While it may seem I am way strung up on this, having everyone tell me to move on is just going to help me develop the ability to do just that. I do firmly believe that in the world of relationships the next one will always be better until you have found the one. I guess bottom line right now is I haven't found the next one yet, so I am still thinking about the last.
Did a quick read through other threads, you do seem inept picking up on cues, surprising for an attorney...just say'n
You REALLY want to get married, even though you are quite troubled by the fallout from divorces you deal with every day. This girl seems to check off many boxes for a wife, so you figure you can "live with" the rest in order to accomplish that life goal.
Yet, you also seem to have this urge to settle a score with her, this so-so girl, for breaking up with YOU.
She said I was bad at up picking up social cues. Something I never considered. But I think she was right. I have been trying to pay more attention to peoples' body language, intonation during speaking, etc. I don't know why it is surprising an attorney might have this issue. I come up with every reason why my client might be right and every reason why the opposition might be wrong and then go confidently into court and try to convince the court I am right. Very different than a meaningful and emotional private relationship with a woman.
Jenna, I have only been dumped one other time. So that may be part of it. For the others, please remember this was my first serious relationship in quite a while. While it may seem I am way strung up on this, having everyone tell me to move on is just going to help me develop the ability to do just that. I do firmly believe that in the world of relationships the next one will always be better until you have found the one. I guess bottom line right now is I haven't found the next one yet, so I am still thinking about the last.
It's hard getting dumped, rejection sucks mass quantities...
However, the only thought given to the last girl should be the lessons you learned to move on as a better person. You mostly enjoyed your time together, so be happy you don't have to lug a bunch of emotional baggage with you into your next rendezvous of lovey-dovey-oooh-la-la-ness. As long as you focus on the "what coulda beens" with her, you'll never be able to acknowledge a better match for you.
Yes, even during our last conversation, I found myself saying to her "I am just trying to get in your head here and figure out what I did wrong so I can learn from my mistakes." So while it seems like I am trying to get her back here (which it would be great if I could) my primary objective is to learn from my mistakes. Thank you.
She said I was bad at up picking up social cues. Something I never considered. But I think she was right. I have been trying to pay more attention to peoples' body language, intonation during speaking, etc. I don't know why it is surprising an attorney might have this issue. I come up with every reason why my client might be right and every reason why the opposition might be wrong and then go confidently into court and try to convince the court I am right. Very different than a meaningful and emotional private relationship with a woman.
Picking up on cues and reading people are everything, romantic, personal or professional.
Yes, I am used to being the guy everyone looks at. Mogul Skier, Baseball Pitcher, Now Lawyer. I need to learn how to look at other people.
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