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I'm sure this has been posted before but I'm going to post it. Its quite frustrating. There is literally no one for me to date, it seems. Meeting a girl is hard enough as it is. I talk to girls at my job all the time because I work in a factory. They are either married, dating someone, or are divorced and have children. My thing is, I'm an old fashioned 28 year old male, who has a job, a car, and a place to live. Isn't that what a girl wants in a man? Then why are they dating abusive men? I believe in dating someone before you marry them. I feel like the only man in the world who doesn't go into a relationship for sex. You get married and then you have children and you stay together. What is so hard about not cheating and putting in every bit of effort into a marriage? Again, Im old fashioned, so when I get married, I want to have some time to be a married couple and be as spontaneous as we want, do things we want, just to be able to enjoy each other for a couple of years or something before we have children.
Where do you meet someone to date? I'm not the bar type. Getting a girl from a bar is probably going to get you a party drinking girl and that usually leads to some form of cheating. I've tried online dating sites and Ill message nearly 30 girls and I might get a message back from one of them. Where else is there to meet girls? Single girls that aren't cheater and don't already have a family started?
Now, you don't seem shy. You say you talk to many women. So, you don't mind approaching them right? if so, you could meet a woman anywhere. The mall, supermarket, bowling
Thing is go to places you like and find to be a good scene, then do your thing, and should a lady catch your eye, just go over and start a chat. if things go well, and she seems to be responding kindly to you, ask if she's seeing anyone, and that if not, you'd like to go out sometime and get a number, or decide to meet up somewhere and continue the "getting to know you" phase.
Dating is something that just comes along in my eyes.
So I don't see it as a priority or a job I HAVE to do. That's the key in my opinion. There are single women everywhere. It's probably just your area. You may have to move or try OLD. They are out there....just have to find them.
In the meantime don't freak out about it so much. It's not that serious. When it comes to dating you have to bring a lot more to the table than a job, a car, and a place to live. What kind of person are you? What maes you tick? Are you happy with who you are?
You aren't even dating someone and you're already freaking out about getting married and having kids, that's putting the cart in front of the horse, and I read what you wrote and it comes off as desperate.
If you live in a city, or a fairly populated area, you will find single women. If you live in a small town, you may not find single women, or the single women are not the kind of women you're looking to date. I know the ladder all too well, and it ****ing sucks.
Dating is something that just comes along in my eyes.
So I don't see it as a priority or a job I HAVE to do. That's the key in my opinion. There are single women everywhere. It's probably just your area. You may have to move or try OLD. They are out there....just have to find them.
In the meantime don't freak out about it so much. It's not that serious. When it comes to dating you have to bring a lot more to the table than a job, a car, and a place to live. What kind of person are you? What maes you tick? Are you happy with who you are?
Find the answers to those questions first.
I agree with her. It just happens, it happens naturally, it happens effortlessly. The op sounds like a decent guy but also sounds very picky and somewhat desperate. Has the OP asked his friends for advice/hookup help? Meeting people at social gatherings is a good start.
Where do you meet someone to date? I'm not the bar type. Getting a girl from a bar is probably going to get you a party drinking girl and that usually leads to some form of cheating. I've tried online dating sites and Ill message nearly 30 girls and I might get a message back from one of them. Where else is there to meet girls? Single girls that aren't cheater and don't already have a family started?
Why do men not know the answer to this? Women who are looking for men join hobby groups, co-ed sports leagues or hiking groups, volunteer in the community, at animal shelters, on park trail maintenance crews, at film festivals, at Habitat For Humanity projects, etc. They go to concerts and art fairs, and keep an eye out for friendly guys. And as often as not, doing all those activities, they come away asking, "Where are all the guys?" Why aren't guys getting the message that this is where the women are?
And besides that, there's the simple fact others have mentioned: women are everywhere. They're in the grocery store, the coffeeshop or bakery/restaurant, at the bookstore, in yoga class or Chi gong class at the gym. They're at the poetry open mic, the theater improv workshop, cooking classes, the community vegetable garden, your local bus stop, the farmer's market. They're at the dog park, or walking their dog down your street, hoping to meet someone interesting. (Some women do this with calculation, choosing the neighborhood for their dog-walk strategically.) They're at the weekly volleyball game in your local park. They're jogging or skating in the park. They attend travel lectures at your town's travel bookstore or recreational equipment store, hoping to meet a cool guy they can share travel stories with.
Any of those venues can be a real singles scene, depending on the town and the specific venue. Find out which locations/activities in your town are popular with young singles, and go there. Women are everywhere. Pick a place, anyplace (pick two! Three!), and be friendly and chat up the women.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 12-25-2014 at 11:35 AM..
Why do men not know the answer to this? Women who are looking for men join hobby groups, co-ed sports leagues or hiking groups, volunteer in the community, at animal shelters, on park trail maintenance crews, at film festivals, at Habitat For Humanity projects, etc. They go to concerts and art fairs, and keep an eye out for friendly guys. And as often as not, doing all those activities, they come away asking, "Where are all the guys?" Why aren't guys getting the message that this is where the women are?
And besides that, there's the simple fact others have mentioned: women are everywhere. They're in the grocery store, the coffeeshop or bakery/restaurant, at the bookstore, in yoga class or Chi gong class at the gym. They're at the poetry open mic, the theater improv workshop, cooking classes, the community vegetable garden, your local bus stop, the farmer's market. They're at the dog park, or walking their dog down your street, hoping to meet someone interesting. (Some women do this with calculation, choosing the neighborhood for their dog-walk strategically.) They're at the weekly volleyball game in your local park. They're jogging or skating in the park. They attend travel lectures at your town's travel bookstore or recreational equipment store, hoping to meet a cool guy they can share travel stories with.
Any of those venues can be a real singles scene, depending on the town and the specific venue. Find out which locations/activities in your town are popular with young singles, and go there. Women are everywhere. Pick a place, anyplace (pick two! Three!), and be friendly and chat up the women.
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I see. I suggest, you to try harder! You'll eventually find someone of your liking. GL.
