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Women want rings and not the wedding because the man pays for the ring and the woman's family typically pays for the wedding. So... they'd rather the man spend a lot of money because they don't want to.
Why not just tell it how it is?
Does the woman's family still pay for weddings? I thought that went out a long time ago.
Women want rings and not the wedding because the man pays for the ring and the woman's family typically pays for the wedding. So... they'd rather the man spend a lot of money because they don't want to.
Why not just tell it how it is?
This tradition is actually increasingly less common in contemporary society, particularly among marriages between established adults with professional incomes.
My husband and I paid for our wedding ourselves...it's not that unusual.
My engagement ring was my MIL's ring however if my husband had proposed without a ring I would have been fine as well. He knows the type of person I am when it comes to "material" things. In my opinion, the marriage is more important then any wedding or engagement ring could ever be on any given day. It seems like the ring is just to show off to your friends/family (and I am not trying to keep up with the Joneses).
I don't think rings are necessarily about bragging rights (though some use them as such, it's why diamonds come in different sizes).
Rings, no matter what gemstone is in them, if they are plain bands, etc. have a lot of symbolism and tradition tied up in their use. Most of the time, the appeal lies in the tradition and symbolism. People who use big-ticket items as conspicuous status symbols are people who are going to be that way regardless of the presence of a ring or not. It's a personality flaw.
It did. It still happens on occasion, just as anything does...but it's definitely not the norm.
Well that's what I thought. Nearly all the people I know mid 20's and older have paid for their own wedding. Most people I know have small affordable weddings.
seen a couple of women here would prefer an "engagement ring" over a wedding
fascinating!
i'd like to discuss the details behind that thought process
A ring is an outward symbol of your commitment that anyone you meet can see. If you meet someone you have no way of knowing if they had a wedding by looking at them. If I had to chose, I would want a wedding ring more than a wedding. That said, my wedding was really fun and pretty cheap as far as weddings go. My engagement ring was, apparently, pretty cheap too if you believe the $10k numbers being thrown around on here.
I don't think it would have bothered my husband if I didn't want an engagement ring. I love jewelry though and my wedding set is one of the few pieces of jewelry I have that I didn't make.
I have a couple friends (as in, they are husband and wife) who got tattoos that fit together when they clasp hands instead of exchanging wedding rings. I could never do that (too wimpy and outward tattoos aren't great in the banking world) but I thought it was cool.
A ring is an outward symbol of your commitment that anyone you meet can see. If you meet someone you have no way of knowing if they had a wedding by looking at them. If I had to chose, I would want a wedding ring more than a wedding. That said, my wedding was really fun and pretty cheap as far as weddings go. My engagement ring was, apparently, pretty cheap too if you believe the $10k numbers being thrown around on here.
I don't think it would have bothered my husband if I didn't want an engagement ring. I love jewelry though and my wedding set is one of the few pieces of jewelry I have that I didn't make.
I didn't care one way or another about an engagement ring.
It was important to my husband, actually.
I also had a less costly wedding, and, in all likelihood, a less costly engagement ring than most. I don't know what my husband paid for my ring (nor do I care to know), but based on the style and size, it was doubtless much less than numbers being bandied about on here, and that is 150% A-OK with me. The money that didn't get sunk on jewelry was put to good use, between things for our home and our honeymoon trip to the United Kingdom. My ring is beautiful, but spending a ton of money on a ring, to me, is silly.
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